Sorry to hear of your ill health. I do fear getting sick as the sole caregiver. I have decided to begin spending some money and have hired part time caregivers, three in all. Monday/thursday 5… read more
I feel bad. I brought my dad into our home. He was a farmer. He had cattle and cats he watched over. It was getting expensive to let stay at home. Letting him stay at home by himself, wasn't an option anymore. At our house, I feel guilty. He's just sitting around like a rock on a log. He loves walks, cat rides, shopping, church and meeting new people. I tried to get him to feed our cat. Started out good. Now not so much. Sometimes, he will work on a puzzle. What do others loved ones… read more
Sorry to hear that Muggy! Hugs to you! ❤️❤️❤️
My husband has so many tools, clothes and things from his active life that no longer apply to his end-of-life journey. I included his hiking boots in a bag going out to the bin this morning when I saw them in the garage and my heart just broke. They were far too worn to donate and far too painful to keep around. Oh, all those wonderful hikes we took together, even to the top of the highest peak in AZ. I’m not sure how you all have done this, but hopefully I’ll have the strength to carry on.
I think my approach will be to start cleaning out things I no longer need. He seems to want to copy anything that I do. I know a lady or ladies must need professional suits and shoes. He also has many… read more
My dad lives about 4 hours away. Recently, he was in the hospital and found out that the doctor is recommending more care. We are considering moving him to our house. I have heard that patients change when there's a change in the environment. This would be a huge move for my Dad. Sell all his vehicles, have an estate sale, sell his house, cattle, and everything in his property. Find homes for his cats that aren't friendly. We were going to sell his truck and pull from his IRA so he could… read more
My dad is now living with us. It's not an easy task that's for sure!
I really would like feedback on the pros and cons of having your loved one living in your home VERSUS assisted living/memory care facility.
I had to put my sweetheart in memory care, for Alzheimer’s he also has glaucoma has lost all of his site he kept getting up at night, I found him in the closet & the corner of the bedroom,I wasn’t… read more
On one hand, I'm relieved...the day-to-day stresses of caring for a 200lb toddler and working a FT job are over. I tried my best and did my best (mostly) to keep him home...but it was becoming increasingly difficult. I toggle back and forth between, "I'm okay" and "I'm SO sad". I'm glad to be able to turn my full attention back to my job and my health. Taking care of so many things I had to put on hold for the past few years, it's overwhelming. I'm decluttering, throwing away, donating and… read more
My husband is in memory care as I got Cancer knew I couldn’t do both, we were married 58 years and I still have guilt feelings, but know I never could handle it now he is 87 and I 80 and married 60… read more
I am trying to figure out how to help my mother-in-law who has been with us 2 months.
I need an official diagnosis but would like more details on caregiving and what level she's at, and whether certain meds are affecting her paranoia. Need advice on psychiatric meds, etc. So do I go to appointments using HER insurance? Or go to my own psychiatrist and ask questions about her? (I don't actually have one) How do you manage these things?
And I'm afraid to say to her "you have Alzheimers so I need… read more
Yes. With online appointment it’s nuts. I made an appt for her in my “system”. The check in people freaked out, but i said I’m not leaving until we see someone about this fecal incontinence! It… read more
I knew I couldn’t leave H alone when he began having great difficulty using his cell phone. He couldn’t make it work, even to answer when I’d try to call. One time I came home from a 30 minute… read more
Maybe this question was posted prior to my joining this site & if so, please forgive
My husband was diagnosed in 2012, & now needs me for everything. He sometimes gets angry if I leave the room. I don't feel like a person anymore. I don't get to be just me anymore. I don't get to do the things some of the things I used to enjoy. Sometimes I feel resentful, & angry at this disease. Sometimes I am angry at his children for not helping out even though I know in my heart they are busy with… read more
I know exactly how you feel. We are human, it’s perfectly normal to feel anger when they lash out. Even though they don’t know what they’re doing. I’m taking my hubby to day care 2 days a week . This… read more
How do you cope with "Sun-downers". My husband wants to go "home" everynight. He even packs things he is taking with him. Every trick I know does nothing to help.
My wife does the same thing. I found talking to her, walking around and showing her pictures of us in different parts of the house helps.