I need suggestions and help on ways to get Granny to sleep at night. She wonders around..dont want her to fall. I am exhausted hardly no sleep for me the past few nights. Takes medication but not working.
She goes to an adult daycare during the week but on the weekends I have her all day. I dread the weekends, I rather be at work. I am so emotionally and mentally exhausted.
This has been a terrible week, my husband has had daily multiple episodes of paranoia, mania, illogical thoughts and mood swings similar to sundowning in the daytime. He has been on a mood suppressant for over a year which used to help but is not now. I am exhausted and our daughters have had to come over multiple times to help calm him. What have you done with this, meds? This is getting to be unmanageable especially with maintaining a full time job. Help any suggestions… read more
I'm having a hard time doing this since the facilities aren't allowing visitors. I'm afraid she will feel abandoned. She has a constant need for me to be in the same room with her. Each night I tuck her in bed and kiss her 3 times - once for my dad who passed 2 years ago, once for my sister who passed away 4 years ago and once for myself. I know it's the right thing to do, I'm exhausted and angry all… read more
SHOWERS versus BATHS?
Regarding how people with advanced Alz "cannot see water" and so often do not like having a shower .: Has anyone had any more success with giving/ or getting a loved one to take baths instead?
Or even .. giving bed baths ( like nurses in hospitals give to bedridden patients) work any better when people don't like water on their face or coming at them?
So we are thinking of sending my Italian Dad to a day centre for a few hours, maybe just once a week to start off, as my Mum is his main carer and 89yrs old herself.
We are worried he will kick off as he is from Sicily, so he has nothing in common with other people there.. The songs, any games etc will not be familiar and in general he just wants to sit in his chair at home. He can get… read more
My husband was taking a nap or two while watching TV during the day. Now he goes to bed at night around 9 pm (may get up once or twice in the night for the bathroom) but doesn’t get out of bed until 9 or 10 am. Then through the day takes several naps. I feel like he would sleep all the time if I wasn’t bothering him. Should I be concerned or greatful that I have a peaceful husband that the disease hasn’t caused to act out. I truly do feel… read more
I'm puzzled. Almost everyday I read something about how difficult it can be to work with health care providers due to their misunderstanding of the needs of people with dementia and their caregivers. Over the past 9 years my husband has experienced at least 5 hospitalizations, 10+ ER visits, and the route care of more than 10 medical specialists. Through all of that, I can think of only two times… read more
Mom unusually woke this morning with extreme tiredness and confusion. As a reminder from an earlier post, mom broke her ankle and was placed in a cast this week, she is using a walker. She got up to use the restroom and I could hearing her mumbling about not having any toilet paper when there was actually plenty there. I went to check on her and she had fallen asleep with her head resting on her knees. It took strength to get her back in an upright position. She had very little… read more
Unfortunately , he ALSO has COPD and is required to have oxygen 24 /7. This has been the case for nearly a year now, causing MAJOR issues for me, his 78 Y/O caretaker , to deal with. He frequently takes his canula off and PUTS IT IN THE TOILET, which means I have to replace it with a new one or sometimes replace the 25 feet of walk- around tubing as well . I try to make sure I go with him to the bathroom but sometimes I am… read more