Have 99 year old Aunt that has been in this environment about 6 weeks. It is very expensive and the staff does not do their jobs. I want to speak up about the things I see (visit 5 times a week) like no water on her side table where she sits, no clean underclothes on, metmucil in a lump in the glass. Has anyone else experience a Memory Care environment that does their job?
She is in an expensive facility and the best here but I feel it is just “window dressing”. The aides are nice just not doing their jobs.
My wife has Alzheimer's. She will ask me a question and then continue to ask me the same question even though I have given her the answer each time. I know it is because she can't remember my response but how can I keep from getting angry with her for the continual repetition
I'm truly sorry to hear about your wife's condition. Alzheimer's disease is challenging for both the person diagnosed and their caregivers. It's natural to feel a range of emotions, including frustration and… read more
My husband was taking a nap or two while watching TV during the day. Now he goes to bed at night around 9 pm (may get up once or twice in the night for the bathroom) but doesn’t get out of bed until 9 or 10 am. Then through the day takes several naps. I feel like he would sleep all the time if I wasn’t bothering him. Should I be concerned or greatful that I have a peaceful husband that the disease hasn’t caused to act out. I truly do feel blessed he can do things for himself with assistance and… read more
My husband does the same. At first I was scared but doctor told me to let him rest. It takes a lot of strength and burns lots of calories when you have ALZ
If you have placed your loved one in a facility/home, what was the turning point or critical juncture that made the decision for you?
My wife has started being very antisocial in the early evenings, not hostile but prefers to be alone. Now going to bed at 7 to 7:30 usually without saying a word. She will be watching TV from the couch, and she gets up and goes to the bedroom and goes to bed without saying a word.
Things are really declining for my mom, just don’t know how bad she really is
My husbands family who only sees him about 3 or 4 times a year, can’t tell there is anything wrong him. Sometimes I think they doubt his diagnosis and what I tell them. He is on medication, still takes care of all his personal needs, drives in our very small town, and does most everything he used to do. He can carry on a conversation without most people noticing anything unusual. Yet at home with our immediate family, we see small things daily. He looses his phone, wallet, sunglasses all the… read more
Thank you Nothgiel, you are so right. However, our son and daughter both realize their dad’s problems so I have their support!
my hubby has 4 children. They are hardly around and yes i know its hard to see their dad fading away and they cant handle it. But boy they can tell me how to do things and so on and have the nerve to ask me why I AM STRESSED or depressed. REALLY. How can they give me advise when they have no clue what he is like or anything cause they are not here. What is the nicest way of telling them to shut up. If they care so much then where are they. Yes i know they have lives also. I feel that if i… read more