I have recently made the decision to start the process as I know its time...mostly for me as I am becoming sick....but also for D's safety. He really diesnt know his own house of 55 years and I don't think he recognizes me only as a caregiver...we have a wonderful regular caregiver but only for 12xhr a week.
My dad is in a smaller pocket of early-onset Alzheimer’s males with aggression and is combative, (now late stage, 10 years since Dx) AND is allergic/has the paradoxical reactions to almost all meds used to target mood/behavior in Alz folks.
He’s still verbal, mobile, no where near frai. It’s been a 2.5 year struggle trying everything, doing this alone, no other family will help me, except my spouse, we upped and moved our whole lives here to care for him when my mom suddenly passed. I tried 5… read more
I’ve tried every single trick in the book. Ive given it days. I’ve re-tried ALL the tricks. I’ve washed all the sheets. He won’t wear “briefs.” I’ve tried all the tricks for those too. He knows they’re not his underwear, so he refuses and wears nothing under his shorts.
My Dad is a big guy and I can’t force him to change his clothes, his underwear, shower or use body wipes. I’m telling you, I’ve tried everything. So when you’ve tried everything and even the caregivers can’t get your LO to… read more
Many of us have already learned the hard way that incontinence is an inevitable part of the dementia landscape. I frequently use the shower to get my wife clean again but I’ve been wondering about bidet attachments for the toilet. Does anyone have any experience with them? Are they practical to use for the dementia patient? Expensive to purchase and install? Thanks
My life - and the life of our 16 year old daughter - is continually bouncing from one disaster after another as a result of my husband’s mid-stage Alzheimer’s. He cannot realize that his capabilities are not those of who he used to be or even those of a normal person. So he has extremely poor judgement which leads to bad things happening. In November, he was the cause of an incident that led to thousands of dollars in damage to our home (still in the process of being fixed). Last Thursday, he… read more
Its obvious my mother has alzheimers and is getting worse. My step dad and I looking for solutions to get her diagnosed. Deep down she knows she has it. When she forgets things she really gets upset. If you even mention anything regarding it, suggestions or mention anything to do with memory she makes the roof come off. I just moved back this week to be closer. This is heartbreaking and sad.i hate watching my mom fall apart and I feel so helpless. My stepfather spends every waking hour on the… read more
A couple of days ago, I was given a 45 day eviction notice for my husband from the director of his memory care residence. She told me he should be in a skilled nursing facility, where they can keep him sedated. She told me that, even if another memory care decides to accept him, I’ll likely end up getting an eviction notice for him from them, too. But the nursing homes, I’ve contacted, seem to respond as if I’ve got my head up my butt. And they tell me they’re not equipped to handle dementia.… read more
What are some of your favorite songs that keep you going? All songs welcomed-religious or not!! I want a playlist to listen to for the hard days and to share with other caregivers.
My husband loves Amazing Grace we sing it when he is having trouble focusing.