I really would like feedback on the pros and cons of having your loved one living in your home VERSUS assisted living/memory care facility.
I had to put my sweetheart in memory care, for Alzheimer’s he also has glaucoma has lost all of his site he kept getting up at night, I found him in the closet & the corner of the bedroom,I wasn’t… read more
He is very paranoid and can get very combative. He is still living in a condo with my mom who has her own issues. Neither can take care of the other. My mom is all for moving into assisted living.
I have bouts of feeling like I am failing him too. Thats when I have "a little talk with Jesus" and that helps me tremendously. Pick yourself up when you have this feeling. Im sure your doing great.
It's hard, but you just have to say because I can't take care of you and keep you safe there 💗
During Covid restrictions how do you communicate with staff at assisted living facility regarding the care of your loved one?
We contact the staff by phone, on occasion we may have to call several times, due to the staff being busy, but that is our only mode of contact.
A couple of days ago, I was given a 45 day eviction notice for my husband from the director of his memory care residence. She told me he should be in a skilled nursing facility, where they can keep him sedated. She told me that, even if another memory care decides to accept him, I’ll likely end up getting an eviction notice for him from them, too. But the nursing homes, I’ve contacted, seem to respond as if I’ve got my head up my butt. And they tell me they’re not equipped to handle dementia.
… read moreButton, from what I’ve read here from several myalzteam members, whose husbands are in Veteran’s homes, the care sounds very good there. Assisted Living/Memory Care are only state regulated, and the… read more
My Mom is 90 prob mid stage Alz and quite spry, social, friendly with many - but no true best friend. She's agreeable and kind, She does get frustrated at times and many periods of low energy, feeling tired, just don't feel right without anything obvious going on.
she's been in one facility nearly 3 years. It was difficult at first but gradually got better. In the last year I feel that she feels "at home" except management and staff changes have been too rapid . Can't count on stable staff… read more
You can only do what you feel is right. Don’t second guess yourself. If it’s better over all it was a good move. Well done, Dutch.
She gets angry with us (her children) for not taking her home. She has tried to leave on multiple occasions. She has packed up her pictures, clothes and other belongings. We are considering bringing her home because this is horrible. She is completely obsessed and irrational.
Some places allow monitoring cameras to be placed in the room, allowing you to monitor their care from home.
My husband has been in an Assisted Living Facility for almost a year. I would like to move him to a better facility because the one he is in has reduced the staff in the evening to only two caregivers. For 28 people and only 2 caregivers, it's a nightmare. These two caregivers are responsible for dinner, serving the food, clearing the tables, doing the meds, getting them ready for bed, etc. I don't feel he and others are getting quality care. But everyone I've talked to says don't move him… read more
Hid. I understand. I hope. I never got to place him in a home. I would try to hire a Aid. First. If I needed help. Right now I am 59. So I still got lot of energy. Just make should you… read more
My husband was diagnosed in 2012 with mild cognitive disorder. I have posted many times during this journey and have always found help and support. He has been at home all this time under my care with various caregivers helping over the past 3 years as he needed more and more help.
Now we are on a new journey. I have severe stenosis in my back as well as RA. Dick developed CoVid at Christmas time. It took a lot out of him! Then a huge pressure sore showed up on his heel area. This kept… read more
What a wonderful story to share. I am so glad that he adjusted so well to the facility and now you are getting the care you need.
My Mom currently lives independently. I feel her quality of life would improve if she were to transition to an assisted living setting. I have approached her countless times with my thoughts. she absolutely refuses to entertain the idea.
I welcome suggestions you may have which could assist me with this process.
Following. Mine will not go voluntarily and it is way past time for safety reasons.