Feedback Please

I really would like feedback on the pros and cons of having your loved one living in your home VERSUS assisted living/memory care facility.

How Do You Handle Your Loved One Who Lives In An Assisted Living Facility And Thinks Nothing Is Wrong With Them And Wants To Go Home?

How Do I Convince My Mom To Move To An Assisted Living Facility

My Mom currently lives independently. I feel her quality of life would improve if she were to transition to an assisted living setting. I have approached her countless times with my thoughts. she absolutely refuses to entertain the idea.
I welcome suggestions you may have which could assist me with this process.

Moderate Stage

When do you decide to move to assisted living from independent living? Stove has been unplugged, doesn't seem to cook or heat up much anymore, one meal per day provided by facility is included, meals are brought in often by family and friends. I believe she has forgotten how to use the washer and dryer but of course has an excuse as to what is going on with it. I have started doing her laundry. In any given day she can range from totally off to great detail and recall. My fear is that she will… read more

Those Of You Who Have Placed Your Loved One In A Memory Care Facility, What Is The Staff To Patient Ratio In Your Facility?

How To Convince My Mom To Transition To Assisted Living?

Hello All, I am the sole caregiver to my 78yr old mom who has dementia. She currently lives independently. I have shared my concerns about her wellbeing with several professionals. They explained that many of my concerns would be addressed in an assisted living environment. I agree. I have approached my mom countless times about transitioning to an assisted living residence.
She refuses to entertain the idea and is adamant about living independently. Could… read more

How Do I Convince My Dad With Late Stage Dementia That He Needs To Be In Assisted Living?

He is very paranoid and can get very combative. He is still living in a condo with my mom who has her own issues. Neither can take care of the other. My mom is all for moving into assisted living.

Memory Care Licenses

I am moving my mom to a brand new memory care assisted living facility and they have a standard license. They dont have ECC or LNS license which are more advanced Licenses. She will have to move if she cant stand or pivot and they dont have a license for pureed food. They said that hospice can come in and help and keep her at this facility. It is called Allegro in Winter Park. It is a beautiful and very professional place and not cheap at $6k/month.

Agressive Behavior

Mom has been in assisted living for 6 months. There is a section here that is independent living. Mom walks around that area and had an altercation with someone who lives there because she was touching her ceramic items at her doorway. My mom has never had aggression issues and not to make excuses but I think this person started yelling at my mom and she reacted and apparently raised her fist to this person. The facility now says mom has aggressive behavior (although she is probably the… read more

To Party Or Not?

Next month is my mom 80th birthday. She is in an assisted living facility since Sept., she is at moderate to severe Damenta. Is it a good idea to have a big birthday party or have groups of people individually go see her? We have taken her out 1 time since being placed and she did ok, but I am concerned about a big crowd of people all at once. Any comments would be appreciated.