Alzheimer's
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Preparing to move my wife to a group family home
Preparing to move my wife to a group family home
She is in the advance stages of Alzheimer’s and it has come time to move her into a small family home. She is a very calm and considerate personality without any violent tendencies. What steps can we take to prepare her for the move? We have been married 57 years and won’t let me out of her sight without becoming upset or nervous.
How do we convince family that it’s time for long term care away from home
How do we convince family that it’s time for long term care away from home
My Pops is getting to much for me, my daughter and my mom to handle without raising our stress levels and it’s beginning to show a decline in our health. Pops has become physically violent with himself and us ( nothing we can’t handle) and it’s getting harder to keep him from leaving the house. We have door alarms, padlocks on fences and he still manages to escape undetected. My mom and I have given up so much of our personal lives without… read more
I agree with @A myALZteam Member. In terms of "convince family," have them come spend the weekend with him (24 hours a day for two or three days) while… read more
Hallucinations
Hallucinations
My father 77 sees lots of people in the house at night, is up all night keeping my 75 year old mother awake. We try to explain no one can get in because of the dog and motion detectors on the doors, he refuses to believe us and takes all the phones off the hooks trying to figure out how to call the police. Does anyone have suggestions that may help when he refuses to go back to bed?
My MIL has similiar experiences. She often thinks someone has been in the house. One night she says someone shot through the window. We pointed out that… read more
How do you know what stage your loved one is at?
How do you know what stage your loved one is at?
I've been told they kind of float between stages. My Mom had a sudden drop in clarity (what there was) 2 weeks ago and a gal from the Alzheimer's Assoc… read more
When do I stop taking my Mom to specialists, e.g. nephrologist, hematologist?
When do I stop taking my Mom to specialists, e.g. nephrologist, hematologist?
My Mom is turning 78 this week! She was diagnosed with dementia/then Alzheimers in November 2014. Among other things, her medical diagnosis's include Hemochromatosis and Renal failure (she has 30% kidney function left). Taking Mom to doctors' appointments and having procedures (e.g. therapeutic phlebotomy) causes much distress - physical, emotional and cognitive distress. Her Alzheimers seems to be advancing more quickly recently and she… read more
It helps to use quality of life as a barometer. What kind of position did your loved one have when they were of sound mind. This can also help with the… read more
Wanting to do things but then not
Wanting to do things but then not
My MIL frequently asks to go places and to do things, like a walk in the countryside or swimming or shopping. She has a couple of clubs she attends too. But when it actually comes to going or doing these things, she then changes her mind, saying she is too tired. She is also sleeping a lot more. Have had her antidepressant increased but little change. Is this the way it goes? She is 84, do we expect too much? Thanks for reading.
Yes I had this experience also. I feel it is withdral and they are often aware of the cognitive deficits and they are embarrassed. Social isolation is… read more
Why do I have to keep fighting for respect and dignity for my mom!
Why do I have to keep fighting for respect and dignity for my mom!
I don’t know if anyone else is experiencing my fight My Mom was in a memory care unit fell and broke her femur. It has been six weeks now of nothing but arguing with hospital and rehab personnel. First in the hospital they refuse to allow her to wear depends. So she sat around in a hospital gown and nothing else. She is 88 years old where is her dignity. Had her up doing PT with only a gown on. Once again where is her dignity respected.
The last… read more
I am so sad that happened to you and your mom. Unfortunately all seniors are treated poorly asdor a few reasons. 1.Culturally Americans don’t esteem the… read more
How do you find the communication of GP,s in residential care
How do you find the communication of GP,s in residential care
My dad is in residential care. He is no longer under his family GP who he had been with for many years. He is now under the care home GP who I’m struggling to get answers from regarding my dads care. I’ve left numerous messages with his secretary regarding an new health problem my dad has got since being in the care home (October 2019). Im finding The communication terrible and not getting any answers and basically feel like I’m banging my head on a… read more
Has anyone else just lost interest in almost everything?
Has anyone else just lost interest in almost everything?
I am a 73 year old woman taking care of my husband at home. I feel like a 73 year old single parent of a toddler. I can not leave him alone, He uses a walker as he loses his balance easily. He weighs 180 lb and has trouble getting out of chairs, etc so I have to try to get him up and my shoulders and back are often in pain now.I have to help him with all of his needs including toileting, cleaning him after eating as he drools, wiping his bottom as he leaves… read more
You need respite care for sure. I'd also suggest bringing in some help, part time, whatever you can afford. What will happen to him if you can't care… read more
Zombie Mode
Zombie Mode
At what stage of the disease are we looking at when my dad seems to be in a Zombie Mode. He just sits with his mouth open and stares off while family is over and conversations are going on.
My husband is same 72. Can not function with people even family members I think too much pressure for them to remember what they can't then anxiety sets… read more
