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Anger. How to help them.

My father is becoming more aggressive and rude and mean. Starting to say hurtful things. Any suggestions on how to ease him?

posted about 1 hour ago by A myALZteam User

My dad's wife of 40 years suddenly and secretly filed for a divorce when she realized he is getting mild dementia.

Is this normal, or don't couples just stay together through this struggle? had retired at age 48 when they married, no kids to raise during the marriage and he took care of everything. Now he doesn't drive and has some memory loss, but they are age 87, so isn't that part of aging?

posted about 19 hours ago by A myALZteam User

Is it true that if you keep a loved in their end stage in bed sleeping to long, they might not wake up?

My mother is at the end stage of Alzheimer's. She is very incoherent, incontinent, weak & needs to be fed. She sleeps a lot & so we wake her up, get her out of bed, clean her up then put her on a recliner so that she can listen to music or watch shows of babies laughing. A nurse told us that if we let her sleep a lot & keep her in bed? She might not wake up again. This is scary. Does anyone know if… read more

posted about 22 hours ago by A myALZteam User

Husband's twitching and shaking.

My husband is 77 and is taking Aricept, Namenda, Risperidone and Depokote Sps. About once a month he will have 24-36 hours of constant tremors, shaking, twitching. The first time it happened I took him to the ER where he had a CAT scan, CAT scan with contrast and ECG. Everything was normal. He looked like someone with CPalsy and could not sit up, use his arms or hands and jaw kept opening and closing with a clicking sound. He became so agitated with hitting nurses, etc. he had to… read more

posted about 22 hours ago by A myALZteam User

to Party or not?

Next month is my mom 80th birthday. She is in an assisted living facility since Sept., she is at moderate to severe Damenta. Is it a good idea to have a big birthday party or have groups of people individually go see her? We have taken her out 1 time since being placed and she did ok, but I am concerned about a big crowd of people all at once. Any comments would be appreciated.

posted about 24 hours ago by A myALZteam User
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Hi… We take my mom out for family birthdays. But our family only consist of a total of 6 to 8 people. Early on I had a party for her when she was 80…… read more

posted about 23 hours ago

How do you adjust to this?

Today my husband was off and said that my mother didn't wake up until about 10:30. She was angry when she got up because she said I didn't wake her before I left for work. I told him she just forgot I woke her up and told her it was ok for her to stay in bed, because I had to be into work really early this morning. I am not angry or upset that she forgot that I woke her, just not sure why she needs me to wake her. She didn't used to be this way. If I don't wake her she gets angry and… read more

posted 2 days ago by A myALZteam User

My mom would always say wake me at 11. I told her that I would if I was already awake.

posted 1 day ago

Non stop walking and talking in Alzheimers Patient?

My mom has alzheimers. And is going through a phase where she can't sit down for more than a few minutes at a time . She just walks up and down all day. She also doesn't stop talking. Sadly she doesn't make sense when she talks and mixes everything up. But she talks non stop.
We were just wondering if this is a normal phase that alzheimers patients go through?
And if there are any tips to help her relax?
Thank you in advance

posted 3 days ago by A myALZteam User

Remember back when children started talking how we enthusiastically encouraged every utterance by excitedly expanding upon what we thought was said… read more

posted 3 days ago

Memory Care Licenses

I am moving my mom to a brand new memory care assisted living facility and they have a standard license. They dont have ECC or LNS license which are more advanced Licenses. She will have to move if she cant stand or pivot and they dont have a license for pureed food. They said that hospice can come in and help and keep her at this facility. It is called Allegro in Winter Park. It is a beautiful and very professional place and not cheap at $6k/month.

tags: memory care assisted living license

posted 4 days ago by A myALZteam User
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Thanks Charlotte. They are expensive. I am trying to find out if they are all licensed the same.

posted 4 days ago

Moving your loved one in to an Assisted Living Facility.

Has anyone made the decision to move your loved one in to an assisted living facility? My dad was diagnosed with dementia about 4 years ago. I’m sure he started developing it before then but he lived in another state and I had no idea. He has been living with us for the past 4 1/2 years. He has no friends and not much stimulation of any kind. Really has no interest in much. He will work on a jigsaw puzzle as long as I’m sitting with him but not always. I… read more

posted 5 days ago by A myALZteam User
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I have asked myself and others many times around assisted living facilities. I cannot afford the 5 or 7 K a month they charge. I have applied for VA… read more

posted 4 days ago


My wife has been giagnosed with early dementia and is taking exelon.
She sleeps over 16 hours a day and I am wondering is this is related to the meds.

posted 6 days ago by A myALZteam User
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