My husband's behaviors are totally erratic sometimes 24/7, sometimes within a week, sometimes over a few weeks. I read that this is a sign of degeneration of brain cells and poor vs. good oxygen supply. It is very baffling to live with and witness. I can only describe it to a "layperson" as caffeine vs. decaffeinated behavior.

i take 30mg a day. i do have dry mouth and increase urination .no other problem. what else should i know about this drug?

I can now get my dad to take showers when he needs too.
Not sure how he stinks so much. My question is how do you get your loved one to change clothes in the bathroom instead of his bedroom and then from his bedroom to the bathroom naked? Thank God, my husband hasn't seen that. It's bad enough for me! Sorry Dad!

I am the daughter of a sweet mother (88) with dementia. I can absolutely not get her to bathe. She insists that she just took a shower when it has been at least 4 weeks since her last one. I have tried everything I can think of: telling her we will have a spa day and I will help her if she wishes. I bought her a nice shower mitt and shower gel and a stool to sit on while in the shower. I have tried a calendar showing her the last time she showered. She gets very angry and nothing I can do or say… read more

My husband goes to the bathroom in his clothes (feces or pee). He doesn't want to take a shower or changes for days. When I try to help him he gets very angry. Doesn't matter how I address him.

I help hubby to shower - don't have to wash him - as he sometimes can't work the controls. Plus I hand his showergel in to him and take it off him (and put it out of sight) as I discovered he was washing himself up to 3 times, having forgotten he'd done it!! If I don't hide it, he has come out of the shower to get it again!! I tell him he is rinsed but he continually argues, saying he doesn't 'feel' rinsed. It doesn't matter if I make him look at the clear water either, he's not convinced!! I… read more

My mother in law wants to go back home after3 nights 4 days. We are afraid she will not want to come back with us. Her previous home is unsafe. Should we return with or without her?

Sometimes my father thinks I'm his 'partner' or wife, not his daughter, or caregiver. Which is an both! His sole caregiver.. I believe he needs help with his lower extremities, when he's showing. He tells me that me showing him " could be fun!" I try to just let it go, and not bother me..... And I know it's 'not him' but the disease. But i also get a bit disgusted
I have my own issues in the 'men' department ... I don't know how
To do this part of caregiving. I do everything else. But with… read more

I am assisting my 88-year-old father care for my 84-year-old mother whose Alzheimer's is progressing. My father has been her caregiver for at least five years. She had broken both hips before her Alzheimer's diagnosis and he saw her through the surgeries and rehabilitation. They have been married over 60 years. Although he needs my assistance, I feel like he resents me, he would prefer to be able to do everything himself. He often yells at me because I am not doing things the way he wants… read more

Anybody have problems with their loved ones wearing their clothes from the day before including his shoes at bedtime? I figured out what he could wear to bed. My dad continues to wear his clothes from the previous day to go to bed and then wants to wear them the next day. Anyone have any ideas how to curb this?

Thank you!