When our loved one with Alzheimer's begins to experience confusion, we don't always know the best way to respond. Confusion, even hallucinations, can cause a good day to become tense. Sometimes explaining the right answer can feel like arguing. When our loved one insists that something is missing or that they saw an old friend, letting them down can seem cruel. Being prepared for these difficult conversations ahead of time means hearing from other caregivers who have been there.

On myALZteam, the social network and online support group for family and friends caring for a loved one with Alzheimer's, members talk about a range of personal experiences and struggles. Dealing with confusion is one of the most-discussed subjects.

Here are some question-and-answer threads about dealing with confusion:

• How much should we be sharing about family health issues? I am completely out of my mind with worry and don't know if I can handle her stress on top of mine right now...

• Am I wrong for not being truthful with my father about his parents' passing away?

• My Mom gets dressed every day for church. She won't believe me or dad that today isn't Sunday. Any suggestions on what to do?

Here are some conversations about dealing with confusion:

• My dad died 3 years ago. My mom continuously asks where he is. What's the best way to respond?

• If your loved one wants to do something that just cannot happen, I have a couple of strategies...

• I’m getting really good at the “therapeutic fibbing", but I’m having a really hard time always telling my dad that he’s my dad and I’m not his wife.

Can you relate?

Have another topic you'd like to discuss or explore? Go to myALZteam today and start the conversation. You'll be surprised just how many others may share similar stories.

Feel free to ask a question here.