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My husband does not recognize the extent of his fall risk and poor cognitive decisions. How do I introduce help so I get respite?

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Clarion, PA

If I mention that he must attend a function with me as he shouldn't be home alone, he says "I'm not a child. I can care for myself." There are no family members that can stay with him while I am away during the week.

July 25, 2025
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Good for you! So hope it works great!

August 14, 2025
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Hi Lori, This also is my dilemma. I am presently trying to introduce a person who can do personal care other than me. Mike was against it. "I don't need anyone." he says. Experience is the best teacher. I told him OK go ahead take off your clothes, take a shower, put on your PJ's, brush your teeth. I went downstairs. When he couldn't take off his clothes he called. Second night same thing. Eventually he agreed he does need help. We interviewed a few candidates and started this past Monday. My plan is once/week. I'm hoping this will give me some options . Also, a while ago I started with a companion through a care agency Seniors Helping Seniors. After a few trials this went well with the right person. The companion went out to lunch with Mike and for a time went to the gym with him. Lots of trial and error. Good luck to you.

August 14, 2025
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This is a common challenge - many people with Alzheimer's don't recognize their limitations. As one myALZteam member shared, when someone has Alzheimer's, they often live in a different reality and may have completely different perceptions of the world around them. This can make it difficult for them to understand their Show Full Answer

This is a common challenge - many people with Alzheimer's don't recognize their limitations. As one myALZteam member shared, when someone has Alzheimer's, they often live in a different reality and may have completely different perceptions of the world around them. This can make it difficult for them to understand their need for assistance.

Consider gradually introducing help by:
- Starting with short periods of professional care
- Framing it as companionship rather than supervision
- Introducing a caregiver as a friend or helper who can do activities with them Safety concerns are valid - falls are a serious risk. Several myALZteam members have reported their loved ones experiencing multiple falls when left alone. To help prevent accidents while maintaining dignity:

- Set up regular routines and schedules
- Use electronic reminders and calendars
- Post helpful information around the house
- Consider having medications and groceries delivered
- Arrange transportation services for when you're away

Remember that keeping your loved one safe while also getting needed respite care is essential for both of you.

July 25, 2025

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