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My husband is still pastoring our church and when we do visitation he greets the people then leaves me to carry the conversation. Is anyone else experiencing this with your loved one?

July 11, 2019
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Members connected deeply over the painful experience of watching their spouses withdraw from conversation due to Alzheimer's disease, with... Read more

Members connected deeply over the painful experience of watching their spouses withdraw from conversation due to Alzheimer's disease, with many describing partners who once loved to talk now struggling to form words, respond to questions, or initiate discussions at all. Several members shared that their loved ones communicate through babbled language, occasional one-liners, or simply sit in silence, with one member noting their spouse completely lost the ability to speak five years ago after initially trying to avoid embarrassment by staying quiet. A recurring theme was the grief of losing meaningful communication while learning to adapt through singing familiar songs together, not taking anger personally, using humor when possible, and accepting that this challenging reality may continue for many years.

A myALZteam Member

My husband loved to talk in his good days but since he has become afflicted with this horrible disease he hardly ever speaks a word. I have had to carry all conversation myself. He does not even respond to questions and does not even seem to understand what is being asked.I miss our communication and conversations but am getting used to this being absent in our life now. This is part of the illness as he is unable to focus enough to formulate what was said to him let alone figure out how to respond. He also can no longer speak for himself to let anyone know hat he wants or needs. It is a guessing game. I sometimes will sing songs that he knows and he will fill in a few words here and there but never the whole sentence. Sad! Keep strong and remember this could go on for many years yet. This is 20 years for us.

July 11, 2019
A myALZteam Member

My husband does not engage in conversation any longer. He does his best to respond to questions and/or request. At times he tries to engage, but usually in a babbled language. He does at times speak clear, very short attempts at sentences.

July 11, 2019
A myALZteam Member

Bless both your hearts!! My husband has always been a "loner" and while we don't socialize, he has always encouraged me to have friends....more important then ever to me now. He, unfortunately tends to get mad at things but does forget it minutes! I just don't respond to his anger and try to divert to something else which usually works.

July 16, 2019
A myALZteam Member

I read where people with Alz do not lose their sense of humor. I hope and pray that is true. I try to keep dad smiling and laughing daily. So far, so good!🙏

July 14, 2019
A myALZteam Member

Understanding and keeping up with a conversation is very difficult for them. When my husband was first tested, it was short term memory and processing speed that was most impacted. Conversation now is almost never. Every once in awhile, a one liner will pop out which he was a master at. Laughing is still present but not always appropriate.

July 12, 2019

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