When my mum suffered with it my brother and sister let me get on with it. So to make things easier for me I moved her in with me. I live in Norfolk England miles away from my siblings She loved it she went to a day centre whilst i worked then when she was on the last stage I moved her into a home where she got 24/7 care. My siblings didn’t even visit her once. So I just let them get on with it. She had the best care and the best time with me and my family. It’s not worth arguing over she will forget he even exists it’s up to him. My mum introduced me to people as her husband so she knew there was a family connection between us.
August 26
Does your brother help with your mom, or is he distant? If he's not involved, his opinion on small things might not matter as much. Provide him with as much info as possible, maybe even this website, so he can understand your position better. I guess without knowing his position on things its hard to make suggestions..
August 26
Getting everyone on the same page when caring for a loved one with Alzheimer's can be really challenging — and you're definitely not alone in this. Family members often react differently to a diagnosis, and some may struggle to accept or understand what's needed.
Here are some steps that may help bring your brother into Show Full Answer
Getting everyone on the same page when caring for a loved one with Alzheimer's can be really challenging — and you're definitely not alone in this. Family members often react differently to a diagnosis, and some may struggle to accept or understand what's needed.
Here are some steps that may help bring your brother into the fold:
- Share information openly — Provide your brother with clear, simple information about your mom's Alzheimer's and what her care involves day-to-day
- Include him in appointments — Invite him to a doctor's visit so he can hear directly from the healthcare team about her needs
- Divide responsibilities — Giving everyone a specific role can help people feel involved and more committed
- Use a shared calendar or notebook — Keeping everyone updated on appointments, changes, and needs reduces miscommunication
- Consider a family meeting — Sometimes sitting down together, even virtually, helps everyone voice concerns and agree on a plan
Remember, your brother may be reacting out of fear or denial — which is very common. Try to approach him with patience rather than frustration, even when that feels hard.
If family tension continues, a social worker or patient liaison through your mom's healthcare provider may be able to help mediate and guide the conversation.
August 26