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August 4
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Members rallied around a caregiver struggling to get their mother with early dementia to return to the doctor after a bad reaction to her... Read more

Members rallied around a caregiver struggling to get their mother with early dementia to return to the doctor after a bad reaction to her first medication. Several members shared personal experiences, including switching to a different medication that worked better, and offered creative strategies like modifying phone settings or gently showing a loved one their memory mistakes to build trust over time. A recurring theme was the emotional exhaustion of caring for someone who resists help, with members expressing frustration over misleading online 'cures' and emphasizing that early treatment can help slow the disease's progression.

A myALZteam Member

It makes me crazy when people say they have the cure....yeah, right!

August 4
A myALZteam Member

I call this a “wretched disease”. It is so hard for the person to reconcile the gap between when their brain is working and when it is not. I am thankful for new medications and it does give some hope of slowing this train down. But the reality is the reality and that is always forefront in our minds.

August 9
A myALZteam Member

That's all I am trying to get her to understand. The longer you put it off the quicker it's only going to get worse quickly.

August 4
A myALZteam Member

Hi Kenny! My mom had a bad reaction to her first medicine, it made her heart slow down and she felt terrible. So we tried a different one and that's been going well. Maybe you could talk her into going back to try a different medicine since she was willing to take the first one. Your Mom sounds like she's as stubborn as mine! The medicine only slows down her deterioration, it won't make her better - that's the hard part.

August 4
A myALZteam Member

Are you able to shut down her account or stop payment? Hide the charger? Set limits on when she can make phone calls? Maybe you could pretend to be "helping her" with something on the phone and modify the settings.

August 11

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