Connect with others who understand.

  • Learn from expert-reviewed resources
  • Real advice from people who’ve been there
  • People who understand what you’re going through
Sign Up Log In
Powered By
Real members of myALZteam have posted questions and answers that support our community guidelines, and should not be taken as medical advice. Looking for the latest medically reviewed content by doctors and experts? Visit our resource section.

We've removed all of her regular underwear but somehow she found one pair somewhere and refuses to wear the new ones. Other than physically changing them for her, which I'm not ready to hold her down and fight to do, any suggestions for making this change work for all of us?

June 27
 · 
Reactions
A myALZteam Member

You can order incontinence underwear for her and it looks just like reg panties. Or put her brief inside a size bigger panties.

July 7
A myALZteam Member

Truthfully I got some fake underwear and would rather buy new ones.

July 1
myALZteam

Transitioning a loved one to disposable underwear can be really challenging — and the fact that she tracked down that last pair shows she's still got some serious detective skills! Here are some gentle strategies that may help make this transition smoother. Reframe the product itself:

- Try presenting the disposable Show Full Answer

Transitioning a loved one to disposable underwear can be really challenging — and the fact that she tracked down that last pair shows she's still got some serious detective skills! Here are some gentle strategies that may help make this transition smoother. Reframe the product itself:

- Try presenting the disposable underwear as simply "underwear" rather than something medical or different
- Look for brands that look and feel most like regular underwear
- Let her choose between a couple of styles or colors if possible — having some control can help her feel more empowered

Timing and approach:

- Choose a calm, relaxed moment to introduce them, not during or after an accident when emotions may be high
- Use simple, gentle two-step instructions rather than lengthy explanations
- Avoid making it feel like a big deal — matter-of-fact works best

Protect her dignity:

- Never scold or shame her about accidents
- Remind her warmly that anyone can have an accident
- Frame the underwear as something that helps her stay comfortable and fresh It's also worth speaking with her doctor about this transition. They may have practical suggestions tailored specifically to her needs and personality. Many myALZteam members have navigated this same challenge, so know that you're not alone in this.

June 27

Related Questions

View All
A myALZteam Member asked a question 💭
Gaithersburg, MD

A myALZteam Member asked a question 💭
Gaithersburg, MD