I have trouble getting my husband to shower also. When I tell him how long it's been since he showered he denies it and says that he always takes his showers at night. So at night I'll say it's about time for your shower and then he insists that he takes his showers in the mornings. He gets very angry with me. Seems all he wants to do is just sit all day long. Doctor says that he needs to be active but it's just not happening. I'll ask him if he'll vacuum for me and he insists that he just vacuumed. He gets so mean talking when I bring him his pills. It's like I need to watch now to make sure he takes them as he hides them and insists that he took them. I pray for patience all the time because it can all be very stressful.

I am going through this with my husband, but the other spectrum…showering 3++ times throughout the day, and sometimes early in the morning . I used to make a fuss, but he just shrugs and tells me he likes to be clean…lol. To make sure he is using bodywash/shampoo i get the 3 in 1 for men so he is not confused with the different bottles, and I remove my bottles after I shower so his is the only bottle left. I’ll also ask him if he would like me to scrub his back, that way I am sure he is clean…lol. when his clothes need changing I lay them out on the bed and tell him where they are. At times I have to help him with his clothes but most of the time he is ok.

Same here. I say it is time to brush your teeth and he says ok then doesn’t do it even if I go in with him and brush mine.

In recent weeks, my wife has stopped doing laundry, showering consistently, and vacuuming around the apartment (which she used to love doing). This is all part and parcel of her overall decline. None of this is a crisis, but it adds things to my plate to worry about taking care of.