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Hampshire, UK

How do I get my mum to have a shower regularly?. She doesn't wash her hair. Swears and gets in a mood when I approach it. Any advice xx

June 8, 2017
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Members shared the universal struggle of encouraging loved ones with dementia to bathe regularly, with resistance often taking the form of... Read more

Members shared the universal struggle of encouraging loved ones with dementia to bathe regularly, with resistance often taking the form of insisting they've already showered, verbal outbursts, or feelings of being treated like a child. Several members found success by bringing in outside caregivers through agencies like the Council on Aging, noting that loved ones often accept help more readily from professionals than from family, while others created routines like Saturday showers before church or used visual tools like calendars to reduce confusion. A recurring theme was the emotional toll of these battles, the importance of choosing which issues to push and which to let go, and understanding that fear of water and loss of sensory perception are common in Alzheimer's and dementia.

A myALZteam Member

we do the Saturday shower b/c she also was used to going to mass on Sunday. Maybe a reward after like ice cream or something she likes and would look forward to.

July 8, 2017
A myALZteam Member

We did the same thing....called the Council on Aging and they sent out a nurse's aide that gave her showers a couple times a week

June 9, 2017
A myALZteam Member

we keep a calendar so that she can see 1x/week is shower day, usually Saturday b/c she is used to going to church on Sunday.

June 29, 2017
A myALZteam Member

Don't worry about it. Use dry shampoo and do a sponge bath. Will she go get her hair done at a shop? I did this for three years with my Sally. No odors and skin intact.

June 12, 2017
A myALZteam Member

I have the same problem with John.when you mention shower and shave he gets very angry.He can be in a very good mood but just mention a shower and gets very angry.he eats good and likes his ice cream.

July 7, 2017

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