My wife always gave me a hard time to bathe her. She refused to get in the shower but I usually bate with her. I had a chair in the shower, sat her in the chair and used a small towel with soap to bath her . I washed her hair every third day with her favorite shampoo and after I finished with her I took my shower. Dried her while still in the shower, took her out, finished drying her and dressed and combed her hair. Her main problem was getting in the shower initially but once inside bathing her was not a problem. A lot I think it had to do with being nude in front of people but not taking the bath. It never got easier as time passed by it became the daily routine.

My husband is down to two showers a week and I use these on him the other days as he keeps his underwear on and sits on the edge of the tub. He likes the lavender scent and that it’s a quick freshen up. He also likes his freshen up to be cold and not warm! These sponges work surprisingly well on his hair and need no rinsing.

It is a very common thing that dementia patients refuse showering. My mom hated it! We are now just washing her with a washcloth. Before that I received a few tips from Teepa Snow and her organization "Positive Approach to Care".
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Thanks for the feed back. 😀

One suggestion is not encouraging a daily shower unless she gets really messy dirty. Older folks' skin is dry and bathing/ showering further dries skin by taking away natural skin oils. Dry skin is prone more to skin outbreaks, rashes and other nuisances. There are online waterless shower wipes that soap up. She could sit in a chair and someone could could 'wash" one limb or area at a time. My husband doesn't like the whole process of showering. If he's had 3-4 days without, he will let clean his bottom and then put on fresh underwear and pants if I lay it all out. Good luck!