thank you

I have someone come in 3 hours a week, divided by 2. Not that much time but enough for me to scurry to the grocery store and back. He is manageable most of the time, with meds to control his anger & anxiety. I am considering day care to make his days more interesting, maybe once or twice a week. He complains he's "bored". He loves to be social but says things that doesn't make sense sometimes. He's on slow decline in dementia so I have more time to consider.

Hi Diane,
It can sometimes take several weeks to find help so I would start doing your research now. Even starting with 4 hours twice a week with a caregiver or if you have a day program for those with dementia in your area start there. Begin the process before you think you need it when you are becoming increasingly more frustrated and discouraged. Once you need it, a month is to long to wait.Hope that is helpful. :)

I think it's of course different for everyone. I think any feelings of being burned out are a good reason to bring in support. Or lasting depression and feelings of hopelessness. You deserve it any time you feel like getting out would be nice and helpful to you. You're very important and deserve to feel refreshed or even have fun if possible.