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A couple of days ago, I was given a 45 day eviction notice for my husband from the director of his memory care residence. She told me he should be in a skilled nursing facility, where they can keep him sedated. She told me that, even if another memory care decides to accept him, I’ll likely end up getting an eviction notice for him from them, too. But the nursing homes, I’ve contacted, seem to respond as if I’ve got my head up my butt. And they tell me they’re not equipped to handle dementia.
… read moreOh, Catmama, I am so sorry this is happening to you. Did they tell you why they are evicting your husband? What were the behaviors that they think he needs to be sedated for? Maybe if you could talk to his physician about the reason for their evicting him, the doctor could prescribe meds to correct it. At the very least, his doctor should be able to tell you about the different facilities that could take him.
Yes, a facility can evict a resident if they can’t care for them regardless of payment type. There are regulations in each state that guide this process. There are also different types of memory care. In our area I have found some with no licensed nurse on all shifts. Some only had a nurse on the day shift, which to me is not adequate. I hope hospice will find a good facility near you.
@A myALZteam Member, I'm so sorry for what you are dealing with. I had no idea they could do that to people. My husband has been getting more aggressive and they have him on anti psychotic meds now. Goodness, I don't even know what I would do, it's hard enough as it is. I pray you'll be able to find what you need and very soon. 🥺
Catmama, I am so very sorry to hear about your situation, and I hope the social worker can help you find a good solution for your loved one. I do know that memory care facilities sometimes send a patient away because they say they can't monitor them properly. I think they mean that they are not prepared for the intensive care that the patient's behavior requires. Drugs have replaced actual restraints, but drugs are coming under fire by the public (that mostly doesn't understand the actual dynamics) so unless they have someone on staff to administer the drugs and/or deal with the patient's antisocial behavior, they prefer to send the patient off campus. Frankly, I don't know the answer--it's a really tough situation. But I am hoping the social worker can explain your choices and help you choose the most appropriate solution.
@A myALZteam Member, YES, they can kick him out. That is what I found in Arkansas, too. Jana was sent to a Geriatric/Psychiatric facility twice in her first 4 months in Long-Term Memory Care. After the required stay of a couple of weeks to "balance her meds," she was allowed to return to the same unit, but if it had happened again, I believe we would have been forced to find another facility. It never did so that was not a problem. It was agreed it was a temporary assignment and they even kept her room and everything as it was while she was gone. However, I know of another person there that was evicted and no one else would take him because he was too strong and violent. I believe his wife ended up with another unit, finally, but quite remote from where she lived. They seemed to be able to handle him and, sadly, it was likely with increased sedation.
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