Thank You for your kind advice God Bless you

What a tough situation...you hopefully will get support to make the right decision for him and yourself...letting others help us is hard but I truly think sometimes it's the only right decision. If you become ill you won't be able to advocate for him and be a loving wife. You don't have to be the caretaker to prove you love him...getting him the best help does not make you a bad person. Hold yourself in gentle loving kindness as you make these difficult choices. Take care.

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What an insightful, lovely response.

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I've had to make the decision myself. Only it's for rehab not memory care. Mike doesn't want to go but I think it's the best thing for him right now. My fear is he will give up and not try to get better. Then he'll end up in there permanently. We always discussed that he wouldn't go to a nursing home but sometimes it's beyond your control.

yes it is so hard i hated putting my mom in a facility. but she was needing 24 hour care, like a Schizophrenic you never knew which mood she was going to be in. Yes when i read about people taking care of their own parents at home i am jealous. I wish i could of retired but that was not a option. Mom and Dad saved their money and i am glad they did, she is in a beautiful facility and is well take of. ☺️