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My Husband Needs To Go To Assisted Living.

My Husband Needs To Go To Assisted Living.

He doesn’t want to leave our home and just wants for me to take care of him. Caring for him is slowly killing me. Any advice?

posted November 14
A myALZteam Member

Thank You for your kind advice God Bless you

posted November 14 (edited)
A myALZteam Member

What a tough situation...you hopefully will get support to make the right decision for him and yourself...letting others help us is hard but I truly think sometimes it's the only right decision. If you become ill you won't be able to advocate for him and be a loving wife. You don't have to be the caretaker to prove you love him...getting him the best help does not make you a bad person. Hold yourself in gentle loving kindness as you make these difficult choices. Take care.

posted November 14
A myALZteam Member

@A myALZteam Member
What an insightful, lovely response.

posted November 14
A myALZteam Member

yes it is so hard i hated putting my mom in a facility. but she was needing 24 hour care, like a Schizophrenic you never knew which mood she was going to be in. Yes when i read about people taking care of their own parents at home i am jealous. I wish i could of retired but that was not a option. Mom and Dad saved their money and i am glad they did, she is in a beautiful facility and is well take of. ☺️

posted November 20
A myALZteam Member

I am also struggling with the decision to put my husband in memory care. My doctor and therapist have recommended it. I think I have finally decided it is time. My husband pretty much paces all day if he is home. The disease seems to be progressing more rapidly. I can now see it is really starting to effect my health.

posted November 19

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