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She has 6 weeks left with C collar on. She is asking less. Since going to assisted living she doesn’t start crying when I show up & last night she didn’t care I was leaving!

August 25
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She really has no routine and hasn’t for a very long time. She did take care of her dogs but she wasn’t doing that right or very different than she use to. Other than loving to watch Virgin River on repeat. She didn’t like doing normal tasks. Dirty dishes just went in the sink not rinsed, wasn’t doing laundry, cooking or cleaning. So I don’t know what to do about that?

August 25
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It sounds like your loved one is already settling in beautifully — and that's wonderful news! The fact that she's asking less, not crying when you arrive, and feeling okay when you leave are all really positive signs that she's adjusting to her new environment.

With Alzheimer's, the concept of "home" is often less about a Show Full Answer

It sounds like your loved one is already settling in beautifully — and that's wonderful news! The fact that she's asking less, not crying when you arrive, and feeling okay when you leave are all really positive signs that she's adjusting to her new environment.

With Alzheimer's, the concept of "home" is often less about a physical place and more about feeling safe, comfortable, and cared for. As she continues to settle in, those feelings of security tend to grow. Here are some things that can help her continue to feel at home:

- Personalize her space with familiar items like family photos, a favorite blanket, or cherished mementos
- Keep routines consistent — familiar daily patterns provide a lot of reassurance
- Remind her she is safe and loved during your visits
- Validate her feelings if she does ask about going home, rather than correcting her

As a myALZteam member shared, "Having a routine is key, as is making sure all her basic needs are met. My mom needs to be reminded often she is safe, who she lives with, and that we love her." She may not ever fully "figure out" she's not going home in the way we might expect, but that's okay. What matters most is that she feels secure and content — and it really sounds like she's getting there! You're doing a great job. 💙

August 25

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