Hi Pattie. I am not sure my mom still lives at home and she always said i want to go home. I am not sure if home is where she grew up or we used to live. I don't think there a easy way. Jason

Very hard bc everybody is different. Al patients often ask to go back with you , it's heartbreaking . Some devise elaborate " escape plans " too . Mostly , with my friends mom ( who wanted to " quit " everyday ) I'd say , " you do sound like you've had it !" I'd try to use distraction but no way ! Finally you realize you've tried everything and you have to console yourself because your loved one is safe and sound , in the best place at that moment . Love 💗 yourself 🤗

We all must remember that every day is a new day , hour or minute for them. We must remember that they don't remember that where ever they are is home. my husband is gone now and sometimes I wonder if it is there way of saying they want to go to live with their heavenly Father.

Please don’t feel guilty. I think no matter where they are they will want to go home.

Pattie, did you put your Mom in assisted living because you wanted to see her confused and upset? Of course not. You put here there because it is the best way for her to be safe and have companionship. Swallow that guilt. You don’t deserve it.

As to how to get your Mom to stop asking to go home, you probably can’t get her to stop. But I think you need to develop an honest answer about why she needs to be in assisted living and then repeat that answer each time she asks to go home. Something like “Mom, you need to stay here because there is a nurse always available if you need her and there are many other nice ladies here with whom you can chat and have tea. I wouldn’t be able to give you the type of support you really need if you were at home.”

Good luck.