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Putting My Dad In A Facility

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Pittsburgh, PA

My 92 year old father has been living with us for over a year, we pulled him out of assisted living because of Covid. I think he would have died from lonliness. We have given him good care and our home has been transformed to meet his needs, stairlift, no throw rugs, etc..it is now apparent he needs more care than we can give him. The facility has a good reputation and Ipray his care will be good. How do we get him to understand when the day comes he will be living somewhere else? I brought it… read more

June 2, 2021 (edited)
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A myALZteam Member

It's a shame that our most treasured people in society have to deal with less than excellent care. If we paid these people a better wage, perhaps that would help. The entire care of elderly in this society has to change. We had someone that the VA contracts with and I stayed with her for the day. Th e girl had so many emotional issues and I heard about every single one, that there was no way in heck I would leave her with my father alone. I was told that "she was one of their best" She even told me about all her medication and how she takes it incorrectly sometimes and can't stay awake. We do have some care takers we hire privately and it seems to be working.

June 6, 2021
A myALZteam Member

My husband just read in the paper that this particular individual was cited by the police for following too close behind a car. Not a big deal, but still....

June 10, 2021
A myALZteam Member

PauletteRucker I am on my second HHA. The first one I had did the bare minimum. She spent more time taking selfie's for Facebook than she did working with my husband. This aide in wonderful, goes above and beyond BUT sometimes she oversteps. Then I have to advise her of the issue, other than that I have finally found a good one. If you're not getting reliable help call the agency and file a formal complaint. I hope everything works our for you💕

June 5, 2021
A myALZteam Member

My only excuse to my father is that we need to have extensive house repairs and it is best he live elsewhere for the time being, which is really true but we need to get our flooring replaced and can't do with his living with us...

June 4, 2021
A myALZteam Member

Good Afternoon RobinMerrittWuchina and PauletteRucker. Ladies I wish I knew the answer to that question. I am wondering myself when the time comes for my husband. He's not at that point yet but I too have the same concerns. But do either of you have a Home Health Aide for your parents? I have one for my husband and that helps a lot with the bathing and dressing issue But in all actuality I honestly don't think that you'll be able to help them understand the move. You can attempt to explain to them it's for their best interest but just don't know if they'll get it😧 My prayers are with you both but if I can find out anything I will get back to you 🙏🏽

June 3, 2021

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