I believe it was Davy Crockett who was known to say “be sure you’re right, then go ahead.” In today’s parlance, once you’ve looked at the alternatives and chosen the path that is best for your loved one, go ahead and take the appropriate action. Don’t look back; you’ve made the right choice.

Having been thru this, don't feel guilty about putting him in a safe place. The stress of care giving drains your health, both mentally and physically. You are still taking care of him but you are letting others be your eyes to keep him safe. This gives you a chance to rest, physically and mentally. It allows you to get together with friends and family to socialize. Friends and some family do not know how or care to learn how to help. You are taking care of him the best way so that you can continue to be around to look out for him. Anyone who has gone thru this process will not judge you.

When I had to put my mom in memory care, it was really a tough time. The thing that got me through was remembering that God has a path for each of us to walk. If I could walk hers for her, I would. However, she has to walk her own path, as do I. The best I could do was to be there and support her in every way possible and remember God is doing the heavy lifting.

May your day be filled with Light, Love and Laughter

Thank you so much. Your answer was so comforting. ❤️

I too feel guilt of even putting mum into respite