Get comfortable with lying. When he suggests things like the fireplace cover, tell him, "Thank you but we already ordered one and it is being shipped right now." He will likely forget or you come up with another delay or redirection.

Chrissy, is he ordering these things with a phone? Have you thought about getting him a cell phone or landline that can only dial specific numbers? You could also use the parental control on his TV to limit the number of channels that he is able to watch. These things may seem extreme and taking away his choice, but problem solving difficulties and impulsive decision making are not going to get better and setting up protections for him seems like a good idea. Sending hugs and support!❤️

We are POA and have access to the bank online and in person now. We have tried using the for your health speech but he keeps saying if I die I want to die happy. He is ok with us paying the mail bills but he's not ok being told to take it easy on big ticket items. He bought a $500 walker off of tv when his doctor told him to get one. His insurance would have covered the same type without all the extra features had he asked for help.

I do all my dads finances but he does still carry a debit card for when him and his caregiver go grocery shopping. He used it to purchase some things online recently. He has no memory of doing it but I can tell from his computer it was him and not fraud. It was some toys and he shipped them to himself. Anyway, I called the bank and they recommended Card Valet app. I can stop transactions over a certain amount or for certain transactions and I get notifications for any use of the debit card. Much faster and better than me just always looking at his account.

He is at home and we are POA