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What Should I Do When Your Dad Won't Go For The Tests Needed To Diagnose Him?
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My Dad will be 88 in August. He is in great physical health, but mentally is another story. His doctor is pretty sure he has
Lewy Body Dementia. He has most of the symptoms. My family of origin are all living in denial about his disease and it's progressing. My father is very stubborn and he won't go for the necessary tests to diagnose him and get treatment. Any thoughts on what I can do to help him get the necessary tests? Thank you for your time and for your support. God bless all of… read more

posted June 16, 2020
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A myALZteam Member

Hi Cer, I will keep D home as long as I am able and involve home care, but you are right, we are not in control...a day,at a time. Take care of yourself .

posted June 17, 2020
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Several years ago my husband (now age 75) was having memory issues and I asked him to take a free screening test ((MMSE-Mini-Mental State Exam.) He agreed and I took the test too. The examiner said he passed, but barely. You can find this test online.

I asked our primary care doctor what he thought and he said he would refer him to a neurologist. I did some research and found someone, and he ordered some tests, and also referred us to a neuro-psychologist for more testing. His diagnosis is vascular dementia, and he is on medication to slow the symptoms...not sure it helps, but was afraid not to try it.

posted June 16, 2020 (edited)
A myALZteam Member

@A myALZteam Member I have also seen a big decline mentally in the past few months. My husband can take care of himself physically and he will fix a bowl of cereal for breakfast. He stopped driving a few months ago and we recently gave his car away. He also does dishes and folds and puts away laundry (although it is often a guessing game to know where certain things have been put away.😋)

It is exhausting to do everything else, but I try to remember to count my blessings.

posted June 16, 2020
A myALZteam Member

I suspect that is what D has too. The doctor called it early onset dementia but from what I have researched its Vascular.

D was also put on Ginkgo, Vit D and Caltrate. Besides Aricept, he takes a mild anxiety pill ...it all seemed to be working, but lately I've seen a rapid decline in cognitive function, although he takes care of his own physical needs, he also makes his own breakfast, but doesn't cook or drive anymore. He can do tasks only if I'm with him. Sometimes I find it tiring as I have to do everything myself now except he washes the dishes, and does the digging in the garden.

posted June 16, 2020
A myALZteam Member

@A myALZteam Member my husband is 75, his birthday in in September. We are all on this journey, and I am thankful for what we have now...but worried about the future. I want him to stay home for the rest of his life, but know I am not in control.

posted June 17, 2020

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