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Members shared strategies for managing refusal to eat in loved ones with dementia, a challenge many found deeply frustrating when their loved... Read more

Members shared strategies for managing refusal to eat in loved ones with dementia, a challenge many found deeply frustrating when their loved one insists they've already eaten, claims to be too fat, or becomes belligerent when food is offered. Several members described practical approaches that have worked, including setting consistent meal times marked on clocks or calendars, using smaller plates with limited portions to reduce overwhelm, offering preferred foods like chicken nuggets or dessert when dinner is refused, and quietly leaving the plate on the table without pressing so the person may forget their refusal and begin eating naturally. A recurring theme was the importance of patience, flexibility, and letting go of battles over food, with many members finding success in creative workarounds like offering ice cream after a refused meal or simply placing food in front of their loved one without asking first.