Thank you Jackie for your honesty. My husband is exactly the same as everyone else who has sent a reply. Every morning for the past two weeks he has been hyper sexual. It is difficult to find this desirable after his mood swings from the “I am leaving you, to who are you, to angry because I said not right now.” Then their is the incontinence and smell of urine. This desire hasn’t been there for him in years. I find it interesting on a scientific basis because I am intrigued by how his mind changes along with the moods. At first I thought it was so sweet. Then I realized that his lack of focus and dementia caused him to not even know me or that he was caressing me or we just went through this behavior an hour ago. It can leave you sad and frustrated and wishing he would not have this desire. I would love a wonderful relationship like we had but this isn’t it. I am thankful that he is still able to be at home with me and that we can still find joy and blessings in our day. Today he was slightly angry because I said no. Took him a couple of hours to quit pouting. It reminded me of a little three year old who didn’t get their way.
Praying for all of you caregivers. We have a tough role. Thank you for your questions and answers as they do help us to know what others are going through.
Difficult situation for sure. My husband is the same. Very difficult to want a sexual relationship with someone who is more like a child than your husband, who can be verbally abusive one minute and lover boy the next. You do what you are comfortable with. I usually make excuses why I can’t and most times he will forget about it. Good luck, hanging in there.
🙏🏻 For all caregivers
Hi Rebecca. This morning hubby said we needed to go our separate ways. It’s all due to his sexual needs. He thinks I don’t love him but I do but that side of our life is just gone for me. Most of the time he’s like a little boy who needs everything doing for him. He laughs a lot but at nothing and wonders why i’m not laughing all the time. Yesterday a friend of mine came for a chat and a laugh. He walked in with a dog toy on his head as he wanted to join in. He then kept hiding and popping out grinning. I know it sounds funny and we do laugh and I know they”ll come a time when I”ll miss this. But then he expects his “rights’ whenever he wants. I do miss my strong rock of a husbandx
I've read that there is a period of hypersexuality sometimes. Try reading "The 36 Hour Day"
After not being able to have sex for several years my just wants to become active again. He us not capable so all my fault. People have told him "things" about me so why won't I be active with him too. This is everyday then he gets to be a horses butt.. so sweet one minute not the next. Really starting to look at memory care.