I love my husband very much. But since the ALZ kicked in he thinks about sex all the time and that part of our life is gone and he wants to try and gets upset with me cause i wont give in butt there is no sence in it cause aint nothing gonna happen anyway so i get accused of having an affair. I just tell him i love him and i just want to cuddle. or sleep. I dont want to hurt his feelings or make him think he aint attractive to me. Do you know what i mean. I am just beside myself will ALL of… read more
It needs to be addressed so we can openly discuss this as sex and alz is concerning. Can we just be open and specfic
Ruby...all of this came from your original post re husband unable to perform...same connection....reason for said accusation of affairs.was because of the missing sex life,
Linda great post. Hope it helps Susie. Thinking about you
Ruby
Oh we share so many experiences here....in the frustration of events and yet at times we have to laugh t survive it.
We had a very active social life even when my husbands dementia progressed. Only until he had these irrational thoughts and would tell all of our friends of my said various liaisons with other Men...two ...sometimes three . At first I and my friends would humour him and say when did all this happen since we were together 24/7. He would give a full description of the two men...and to this day we could never determine who he was putting this claim too. However it continued on....the aggressive behaviour should he ever see them. Finally when I partnered players at our sports club he would carry those thoughts over to them. Our friends would try to reason with him but it was to no avail. So our social life ended. I was continually fearful of his increasing threatening behaviour.
Our doctor increased medication which has helped but he is unlikely to increased any further because in his words it will also affect the mobility....
It still hurts that my husband should say theses dreadful things not only to family and friends....who of course know it is all in the mind...but also at times to strangers.
I would never ever have imagined our life would be like this. I love him dearly and yet hate him equally when he damages my credibility. He makes me both mad and sad at times. His vulnerability and neediness keeps me going but fir how long....who knows!
Big hugs to all who can relate to this....I know I am one of many....God Bless this site.
Perhaps just cuddles with caressing might meet his need and yours.