My husband who has dementia is refusing to eat. He has mentioned suicide occasionally but then stopped talking about taking his life. He shoots, sleeps and screams at me that's the extent of his day. He's refusing to eat or drink water. It's as if he's wanting attention but then he barks orders at me and then screams hateful words. I'm at a loss as to what to do
Hi Gabe, My husband has refused to eat sometimes for a week, but my son found high calorie protein drink that I mix with ice and milk in my blender and I call it his milkshake. When nothing else will get him to eat, this works, plus Ensure also helps. Also, when I started to see anger, we went to the doctor and the doctor added an extra antidepressant which really helped a lot. I was told not to take the anger personally, however that was very hard for me, so the antidepressant helped him and by helping him, it also helped me.
Take care of yourself Gabe because if you get down, who will take care of you. Hope this helps.
Gaba, I think if I were you, I would call his Doctor when you get a quiet moment. Explain exactly what he is doing and saying. They should be able to intervene and get him the help he needs. I think it is time to get him somewhere, where they can get him on meds and hopefully get this settled down. It sounds like he is depressed, so you may have to commit him for some mental health treatment as well as the dementia. Take care of YOU, and get him the help he needs. Not sure this helps, but you do need to get him help whether he likes it or not. Hugs and prayers to you.
My sisters husband was like this and she had to get him meds to help. They help was the only way she could keep him at home.
Gabe, I totally agree with Mandi that your husbands meds might need to be changed. He is very depressed and probably feels somewhat guilty for having to make you take care of him. I don't think they relate it to the disease, My Mom still feels its a minor memory problem after almost 10 years. And I understand the accusations and pointing fingers my way that effect our spirit. Somedays i wonder if it will ever end? So take Hubby to the Dr and plan for better changes. Does Hubby get out or have chores to do (folding towels,peeling carrots...) so that he feels more Needed and better self worth?
Hugs and Prayers going your way, Gabe.
My father was like this. He often threatened to kill me during the day or throw me over the upstairs banister railing. His doctor changed his medications and this has alleviated it most of the time. His doctor said if he gets bad one day, we could add in another pill for the day. So, far that has helped on his worst days.
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