I am in the same boat right now. I have the facility but they do not have a vacancy at this time and I am not ready financially to get him there. I did get a miller trust and have that done but at nearly $6000.00 a month I am applying to the state for help. It is a lot. I think the actual move will be hard for him but I can not give the care he needs. All my gates are locked because he stands in the middle of the road and flags cars down. He knocked on the window at a lady walking her dog and motioned for her to come in. She came and I was fighting him and our dog to keep the screen door closed. I have a sign on my gate that says Alzheimer's patient . Do not enter gate. Dog will bite. She didn't even look at it.Thats when all the gates got locks. That was the straw that put my guilt aside and made me start the process of moving him. So we just have to do what is best for our loved ones. My guilt is that my life will be a lot better and I need to make sure his is as well. Just some added stress but in the end I am blessed and know God is with me. Its comforting.

It's hard, but you just have to say because I can't take care of you and keep you safe there 💗

I moved my husband to assisted living from the hospital. Now I am dealing with why he can't come home. I keep telling him he is not safe at home.

My husband also thinks he's fine and would not stay at assisted living unless it was secured...I am looking to get him into care and I am told they won't take him in assisted living, only memory care in a secured environment.

My husband will need a facility in the next year or 2. He doesn't understand he has Alzheimer's. How did you get ur husband to a home? Have u figured out anything that's helped you explain why he's there?