Hi Barb, as Lucielyn suggested, its really only you who will ultimately answer that question. However, as a general rule, when you feel you are not coping, ie constantly tired, angry, sad, resentful, sometimes all at once, then its possibly time for others to step in and take over the role for you. It will also depend on your physical capabilities. Can you lift the person by yourself if they have a fall or other accident in the home? Interestingly, doctors face a similar dilemma with terminally ill patients. When do they say they can’t do any more and hand the patient on to hospice care? Many see it as a failure on their part. But a good doctor knows the signs very early and takes action, realising it is good clinical practice to give the patient the care they need, not what they think they should (but can’t) be giving them. Its the same for us. When we see the signs, its time to let others who have all the resources at their disposal (that we don’t) to care for the person. That is true loving care and not any cause for guilt or shame.
Hope this helps.

You must get your Dr’s opinion and do what you think is right for him and you.

There is no one that can answer that question except you. There is a point where we have done all we can.

Absolutely not , no way is wanting peace selfish !!!!!
This is a very cruel disease , which not only robs the person of everything but also their family members who care for them , day in day out !!
When u have gone beyond your limitations , it's time to seek alternative accommodation for the sufferer before the career becomes a soul destroyed zombie .
It's a tough call to make , and neither situation brings happiness or any less stressful , but sleep and rest is what matters to keep sane

@A myALZteam Member you have done your best Wanda. Dont be to hard on yourself x

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