I had same problem with my both dementia suffering parents. I learned if I pick the time when they were in a good mood they agreed. Usual shower time, early morning or before bed, was never worked. Brushing teeth for mom was challenge. I gave up taking her to the bathroom sink. Now I bring a brush, spitting pan, a cup of water and a towel to her while she watches TV and brushes for her. I am happy she lets me do that at least.
My mother when asked if she'd like a shower would say she already had one or... Oh no it's alright I don't need one. What we found worked was I would just. Say oh mom come with me I'm going to give you a shower. She never refused. As well, sweet smelling body washes, soft scrub bites, bubbles were a big plus.
We had the same problem when she went into care. The psw's would ask her if she wanted a shower and she would say on no it's okay. I would be told she refused when asked. I suggested they reword their request and say Edna lets get you in the shower. They never had her turn down the request.
Teeth brushing as well needs to be inviting like a pretty toothbrush. You may even need to buy a child's toothbrush and toothpaste to make it look interesting.
Best of luck to you.
Yes the coloured water is a good idea. I bought a shower head with LED coloured lights which continuously change colour as the water passes through. No batteries needed works like magic. You can buy them on EBay for a few pounds.
Hi There. They say that ALZ patients do not like the water sprayed on them...so direct the shower away, so they can get in the tub. Also that many have problems seeing the water so think the tub is a hole. This might be helped by colored water or a colored mat in bottom of tub or even bright towel on the tub chair. You may also have to brush your teeth with her , as she cannot remember the steps. Many carers complain about patient refusing to change clothes, so yo may need to take away the dirty clothes and put out clean things on the bathroom counter. All the best in solving this problem with your journey. HUgs goin gout to you. -Sharon
My father is incontinent so we go to the bathroom first thing in the morning to change his clothes & have him sit on the toilet. I have found that on shower days (twice a week) once his dirty clothes & briefs are removed I put them outside of the bathroom otherwise he wants to put them back on, out of sight out of mind. I also do not keep his day clothes in the bathroom or a towel, I get them from the next room one item at a time once he has completed his shower. To get him into the shower I tell him we have an appointment & he needs to be clean. I ask him to please step into the shower & put his feet on the mat. I also scatter baby bath books on the floor of the shower to encourage him to enter the shower, he likes picking them up. I keep the hand held shower hanging down so the water is not running over his head & I wash his head last.