It's hard for someone to even consider moving a loved one to a nursing home but it's the best place, usually the safest place for them. The transition can be extremely difficult and heartbreaking but for the caregiver it's time to take back your life to some semblance of normalcy. You don't do the patient any good if you are sick also.

Yes indeed i use to be a very active person but now my back hurts, and im not eating or sleeping properlyand my brother wants to move my mother into a assisted living complex I love my mother too much to do that but It can wear you out!

I agree. My sister has to make some decisions soon to avoid further health issues. Stress can do all kinds of stuff to your mind and body, some of which you cannot recover.

My mother had frontal lobe dementia with no filter, so said and did bizarre things and that is how we caught it. We put her in assisted living apartments, 2 of them, and then she was in the hospital and they would not let us bring her back...she needed to be in a nursing home, so even there we had to be there quite a bit to check on her. Probably one of the most sad things I have seen in my life, the other dementia patients and the staff that was not doing their job. We moved her to another nursing home after another hospital visit and that one was very good. She died at 91, her mother had dementia also, but as many say my mother had dementia probably in her late 60s or early 70s. My brother and I were POAs and had to give each other breaks.There comes a time when they cannot live at home, and have to be put in a dementia unit but watched carefully. My mother was in an apartment at first and almost burned the apartment building down. I have never felt guilt putting her there. Her request to family was keep me safe and that is what we did. I have a strong faith so had help during all of this. So breaks for your sister seems like a good thing. You do not know how long it will go on. My mothers last stages went quickly, she decided to stop eating and drinking and within 3 days she was gone. When someone would give me a break, felt refreshed and could go on. Take care and your sister is lucky to have you...:)

Those things I already do for her, That is not taking any pressure off her for the day-by-day happenings. He gets angry enough to throw things. I am afraid that one day, he is going to hit her with flying objects or take it out on her. She has to make some hard choices soon...Does any one agree with me?