A flat refusal is often the case with hygiene concerns. Trying to talk about it with them will only end up in an argument. When you can buy all the same nightclothes so that least you can swap them for clean ones. accidentally spill something on her lap so that a strip off and shower could happen.........i know of someone who regularly spills jelly and custard on her loved one and that the only time the clothes come off and a shower happens. hugs

I wouldn't push the issue,I remember when I had dad at home and we would go through this issue every morning ,in reflexion I wouldn't of worried too much as when they get older they don't sweat as much.Once every three or four days is fine unless they are incontinent

My mother is the same way. Always was fresh and clean. Now she just refuses. Ive tried telling her she smells really bad (she did). That didn't work. Twice I have had luck. I went to her and said "Guess what today is? (with lots of enthusiasm) Its shower day!!" I told her I was going to help her get undressed because it makes her so tired, then I soaped her wash cloth, handed it to her through the sower curtain and told her not to forget to wash all her parts. I take what I can get. She wont do it for anyone but me. Its very hard to get her to do anything

I have the same problem with John.he dont want to shower or shave.talks all the time and gets very angry

I have the same problem..he dont want to shower or shave and he realy gets angry about all the time.