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Telling White Lies

Posted on June 25, 2019

Have you ever told a white lie to be kind, to protect the feelings of others, or maybe to simply avoid stigma? You're not alone.

For caregivers, telling a white lie can be a way to save one's strength. Sometimes it's easier not to share your unvarnished truth, especially when it doesn't hurt anyone else.

Have you ever found yourself saying any of the following?

1. "No, no. I can do it myself. "
2. "I'm not scared/nervous/anxious/unsure."
3. "I'm fine. Really."
4. "Don't worry. I'm used to this."
5. "I know what to do."

Here are some conversations from the community about this topic:

“I’m scared and I don’t feel strong enough to deal with what is coming.”

“I wish family understood our need for companionship and assistance. Some just don’t have a clue. It’s easier to stay away so they don’t have to deal with what they just can’t comprehend.”

“People have just turned their backs on my Mom and it really irks me because my Mom has always been the caring and giving one.”

Why do you choose a white lie over sharing your true feelings?
What do you wish you could say instead?

A myALZteam Member said:

That’s a huge step and you’re doing a great job!

posted about 2 months ago

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