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We change her protecting undergarments again which are not wet. The change doesn't matter and she still feels wet. I try to distract the thought patterns with moving out of the bathroom or discussing upcoming activities. Sometimes this works and other times we get stuck on who's right about the undergarments being wet or dry. Appreciate how you have managed this issue.

November 4
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What a caring and thoughtful approach you're already taking! The feeling of being wet even when dry is a perception issue that can happen with Alzheimer's — the brain sometimes sends signals that don't match reality. It's not something your wife is making up; she genuinely feels it.

The key is to avoid the "wet vs. dry" Show Full Answer

What a caring and thoughtful approach you're already taking! The feeling of being wet even when dry is a perception issue that can happen with Alzheimer's — the brain sometimes sends signals that don't match reality. It's not something your wife is making up; she genuinely feels it.

The key is to avoid the "wet vs. dry" debate altogether, since there's no winning that conversation for either of you. Instead, try shifting focus away from the feeling itself. Here are some strategies that may help:

- Acknowledge her feelings first — say something like "I hear you, that sounds uncomfortable" before redirecting
- Avoid arguing about whether the undergarments are wet or dry — this tends to make things worse
- Redirect to a comforting activity like looking at photos, listening to favorite music, or a short walk
- Change the environment — simply moving to a different room can help break the thought pattern
- Offer a warm, cozy item like a favorite blanket to shift her physical sensations

Your distraction approach is already on the right track! Consistency is key — over time you may discover which redirections work best for her specifically.

It's also worth mentioning this to her doctor, as they may have additional suggestions.

November 4

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