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Syracuse, NY

When my loved one went to a memory care facility, one of the things they told us is we'd have to use their PA. He couldn't go to our regular GP or the Geriatrician we had. I feel even though I ask questions, I have no control any more. How do I know if the medications are correct for him? What about newer medications that may be helpful? I just feel he's slipping away faster and faster and I can't help. What can/should I do?

6 days ago
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It's completely understandable to feel this way — losing that familiar medical relationship can feel like losing another layer of control in an already difficult situation. The good news is that you still have a very important role as your loved one's advocate, even within the facility's system.

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It's completely understandable to feel this way — losing that familiar medical relationship can feel like losing another layer of control in an already difficult situation. The good news is that you still have a very important role as your loved one's advocate, even within the facility's system.

Here are some practical steps to help you stay informed and involved:

- Request regular medication reviews — Ask the facility's PA to schedule periodic checkups specifically to review all medications, checking whether each one is still necessary or could be causing side effects
- Keep your own updated medication list — Track every prescription, supplement, and over-the-counter item your loved one takes
- Ask questions about every drug — Don't hesitate to ask the PA why each medication is prescribed, what the side effects are, and whether safer or newer alternatives exist
- Watch for warning signs — Note any changes in confusion, tiredness, or behavior and report them promptly to the PA
- Consult a pharmacist — A pharmacist can independently review medications for harmful interactions and flag concerns Regarding newer medications, it's absolutely reasonable to ask the PA directly whether any newer Alzheimer's treatments might be appropriate. Bring it up at every visit if needed — you are your loved one's voice.

One myALZteam member shared that after advocating for a medication adjustment, their loved one "still has their temper but has improved with the right medication dose" and "seems much happier too." Small changes can make a real difference.

You haven't lost control — you've shifted roles. Being informed, asking hard questions, and speaking up when something doesn't feel right is still incredibly powerful caregiving.

6 days ago

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