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I reminded her 2 take her night time pills and she just when off. Like had talk about 2day. She just keep moving things and blaming every1.

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Chesterfield, VA
4 days ago
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A myALZteam Member

Oh @A myALZteam Member, I feel for you. But I will say she doesn't know SHE moved it. She forgot she moved it, and blaming you is just a convenient explanation for her. It is the disease talking, not your true mom. It stinks to be blamed for everything that goes wrong, but I'm getting used to it and trying not to take it personally. Best wishes to you!

3 days ago
A myALZteam Member

The problem is she keeps telling people that l put my hands on her. She tells them when she know she move something. l say l want help her. Now she up and down because she didn’t take her night time pills. This will be all night long.

4 days ago
myALZteam

It sounds like a really tough evening. What you're describing — the agitation, confusion, and blaming — sounds like it could be sundowning. This is when Alzheimer's symptoms get worse in the late afternoon or evening, and it's very common.

A myALZteam member shared something similar: "My mom struggles with sundowning on a Show Full Answer

It sounds like a really tough evening. What you're describing — the agitation, confusion, and blaming — sounds like it could be sundowning. This is when Alzheimer's symptoms get worse in the late afternoon or evening, and it's very common.

A myALZteam member shared something similar: "My mom struggles with sundowning on a daily basis. She gets irritated easily, agitated, and confused."

Here are some things that may help in the moment:
- Check if she's hungry, in pain, or needs the bathroom
- Dim harsh lighting and close blinds to reduce confusing shadows
- Try gentle distraction — a calm activity or soft music
- Stay nearby and listen calmly, even if it's hard For the nighttime pills specifically, it may help to talk to her doctor about the best time to give medications, as timing can sometimes affect agitation.

A relaxing bedtime routine — like herbal tea, a warm bath, or soft music — can also help ease her into a calmer state before medications and sleep.

You're doing a great job just by being there. Take a breath — you've got this. 💙

4 days ago

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