Will say this i would want help,but l do understand what’s going on.
August 21
Allow yourself the grace that she would want to give you, if the tables were turned. It’s often tough and very frustrating, but her interactions are likely not consciously related to who you now, but the person she knew.
At least those of us with ALZ have an excuse for ‘selective attention’ 🤫
August 20 (edited)
Being patient is genuinely hard, and it's okay to feel frustrated. You're not alone in this — a myALZteam member once shared that they had to stop disagreeing with their loved one entirely, and simply agreeing made things much smoother.
Here are some strategies that may help when she only seems to hear what she wants:
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Being patient is genuinely hard, and it's okay to feel frustrated. You're not alone in this — a myALZteam member once shared that they had to stop disagreeing with their loved one entirely, and simply agreeing made things much smoother.
Here are some strategies that may help when she only seems to hear what she wants:
- Validate her feelings — even if what she's saying doesn't make sense, acknowledging her emotions can calm things down
- Don't argue or correct — it often makes things worse and increases frustration for both of you
- Redirect gently — shift her attention to something enjoyable like music, a walk, or a familiar activity
- Speak slowly and simply — short, clear sentences are easier to process
- Make eye contact — it helps her feel connected and heard Music can be a surprisingly powerful tool. One myALZteam member said playing oldies all day for their husband made a huge difference — he loved it and it kept him calm.
Also, remember to take breaks for yourself when you can. Caregiving is exhausting, and you deserve moments to recharge too. 💙
August 20
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