My husband was a veteran and the VA gave me a stipend each moth for being his caretaker. (Imagine that, I am his wife, I would have cared for him anyhow.) I was able to pay a caretaker to spend a coupe hours a week with him so I could get out of the house for time of my own.
If you haven’t checked with the VA call them and see what help you can get.

I think they give wonderful care. All of Clyde Drs are great, & very caring. VA is better run the last few years. We never get a bill, when he had ins. they used it. Now they cover everything. He's lucky, they He served in 3 branches,

VA benefits are not uniform, everything depends on your enlistments, duty/war time, injury/what % and biggest of all it is means tested. If you're well off financially you generally do not qualify. My husband retired at 21 years as an Warrant Officer, he got no VA benefits for his residential memory care. (He had retirement pay, and SSA benefits) He passed away on June 10, 2024

Very important information for anyone thinking that they or their spouse may be eligible for VA benefits. Naples FL has a local office where you can go in with your information and start the process to determine eligibility. Do it the earlier the better as the process takes many months.

Most people do not understand, that even though you are a veteran you DO NOT receive the full benefits unless you are injured during your service. There are more than 7 categories or tiers of benefits they will put the veteran in according to connected service related Illness. If the veteran has an illness that is not service connected, or he served when there was no war, they will not provide full benefits. My husband served in the Air Force when there was no war. He gets doctors care and medications from the VA with copays. No long term care, and very limited home care. Which was better than nothing when he lost his job at age 58. It took 2 years to get early dementia diagnosis and he began receiving SS disability. Now he is at age 68 and we are having to spend down all our retirement funds to qualify him for Medicaid. There are loop holes that a professional elder care planner can help you qualify so you don't have to exhaust all your assets. I urge any veteran who is not does not have a service connected illness to get professional advice. Qualifying for Medicaid long term care is very different than qualifying for regular Medicaid. This is a huge misconception. I did years of research to find this out. Please look into it!!