Caregiver guilt can also come from family members that need to blame someone for your alz sufferers behaviors. They can complain about your care but only offer to watch him for 2 hours and then claim they've found much better ways to help him cope. Armchair caregivers are the worst. They know exactly how to manage the one whose got alz but never have the 24/7 care of that individual. If a caregiver complains to family about being overwhelmed they are labeled a whiner. It's a lose/lose situation. If you ask for help your family will blame the caregiver for not managing the situation better. If you try to explain they think you're just making excuses.

It's feeling like you're not doing enough for your loved one, or are inadequate in the Caregiving role (not doing a good enough job, or not up to the task, or just not able to cope; and Anticipatory Grief also comes into play).

I've been dealing with many of these feelings lately, so I'll share some articles that I've found helpful:
https://www.hrrv.org/blog/coping-with-guilt-as-...
https://www.homecare.com/caregiver-resources/ca...
https://www.caregiverrelief.com/navigating-the-...

Understanding and Overcoming Caregiver Guilt

https://www.caregiverrelief.com/navigating-the-emotional-terrain-of-caregiving-understanding-and-overcoming-caregiver-guilt/

Dealing with caregiver guilt and forgiving yourself

https://www.homecare.com/caregiver-resources/caregiver-forgiveness-and-guilt

Coping With Guilt as a Caregiver

https://www.hrrv.org/blog/coping-with-guilt-as-a-caregiver/