I'm gaining weight and he is loosing it. I've always been an emotional eater. Trying to get him to eat more I find myself grazing. I can't leave him for long periods so the gym or a quiet walk is out. He wants to be with me all the time yet he doesn't want to join me for a walk. We'll get to the end of the 300 foot driveway and he is ready to go back.

I’m not sure exactly what you mean by “that talk”, unless you mean that you were talking about caregiver stress; but caregiver stress is very real, and caregiver health issues are very common. It’s hard to combat the effects of all this stress.

Feeling like you have absolutely no energy may be a symptom of depression, which is also very common and shouldn’t be ignored. Weight gain is common with depression. In addition to the stress of caregiving, we’re also dealing with anticipatory grief — so I hope that in addition to this group, you also have a therapist to talk to, and that you also attend in-person support group meetings. A big hug to you.

I actually lost some weight. But my diet has not been good, and I couldn’t leave Bob alone to go exercise. I frequently would start doing some exercises and have to stop because he wanted something. The stress is real. If at all possible get someone to stay with your husband so you can get to the gym. Either a friend, or hire someone. A work out is a good stress reliever.