When I was trying to take care of my husband at home alone , some said to
me “you should place him at facility. Yes I was telling the stories that it was very hard sometimes , but I wanted to keep him with me and I believed that was the best for him and even though I complain , I was able to do that. It is very heart breaking for most of us to make that decision and can not be done so easily .. that person might have thought about me and not tried to hurt me, but I felt a little mad.
Well , there was a breaking point for us , since then he was at hospital then now rehab facility and I now gave up taking care of him at home and trying to find the Board and Care Memory care for him. Each ones situation is different but people still try to help us , if it is different opinion from mine , just
let it go, sometimes they are right , sometimes I am right. But I don’t think they are trying to hurt us but maybe ignorant ..

Yes , I can a little, but mostly I assume it’s just their ignorance.

Faustina2, don't get too caught up in what others think, especially if they are not offering to help. Don't dare feel guilty about anything you are doing for your Mom. Set boundaries for yourself with those people. Do your best, don't let that take your peace. They are not in your shoes. Everyone has their own journey. Do what you know is right for you and her.

I guess I have found the opposite. Lots of love and support and compassion for what we are both going through. I believe that there are no right or wrong decisions. We all make decisions based on our own beliefs and circumstances. Some people don’t have a good way to express themselves. You can’t control others, you can only control how you react to it. Today, I responded badly to something posted on a group thread about us. I have been overwhelmed and overtired the last couple days. I know in my heart the writer meant no harm, but it hurt me and after the fact I apologized to her. It takes me time to be able to take a deep breath, tell myself they didn’t mean to hurt and put it behind me. Try to ignore those who may have different beliefs. You have a right to your beliefs and choices. You are doing the best given your circumstances. Hugs

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A well meaning friend recently said that I should save myself by placing him.
She worries about my health with the stress. I didn't get mad and considered the fact that this is what she would do in my situation. Like Muggsy says, we're all different.

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