Great advice and reminders. When I feel impatient/aggravated I see it as an induction that I am sad at the loss of my partners abilities and that it is time to try a different strategy. I also tell myself I am not perfect and forgive myself.

I write my husband a daily note of what he has to do, what I have to do, and what we have to do together. He can still read a little bit….but he carries the note around like a toddler would carry around a teddy bear. He is constantly taking the note in and out of his pocket the whole day. If he asks a question about something that is on the note, I tell him that I think it’s on his note. This stops all the repetitive questions.
I am exhausted.
Madeline

I do the notes with my husband too. I have a note pad and on bad days where he keeps asking the same question. I write all the answers down. Then when he asks, I say I think that is on the notepad with a smile. This way he feels like he is in control and I feel like I am too. It really helps us.

Thank you for your post. Scary what great advice came from GPT

hello
Understand the disease progression, and that her neurons are shorting
out from amyloid and will eventually kill the neurons.
Get a geriatric psychiatrist involved
and let him work with you and your wife. Join a caregivers support group
where you can share your frustrations with other caregivers. I always came away with a better perspective.
Good Luck and Buckle up