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How Do I Handle The Overwhelming Loss And Guilt Of Placing My Husband In A Memory Care Facility?
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I’ve been my husband’s caregiver for the past six years. He didn’t want me to tell his diagnosis for the first four years. Since it was during Covid it wasn’t as difficult to honor his request for the first four years. Forty plus years of marriage and losing my best friend! He’s an educated hard working man that now is unable to make a decision. How can I deal with this grief and loss?

posted June 4, 2023
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I was married 51 years and she had Alzheimer's 14 years. I cared for her till her last 6 weeks. It was a difficult thing placing her in memory care, but when I did I knew it was best for her and they could provide better care than I could. I was more at ease and the guilt left me. I focused on love and not guilt. Be well!

posted June 4, 2023
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My husband did that, too, talked no -stop, though rarely making any sense, in the last part of his life.

posted June 5, 2023
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I really don't know, trying to think about same thing. Altho Clyde is doing better, after the Cancer surgery it was horrible. He lost 40 lbs.. He's eating again, thank you GOD.. BUT TALKS NONE STOP 24 HRS A DAY IF HE'S NOT NAPPING.

posted June 4, 2023

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