Hi Barbara….. I had to put my husband in care when he became abusive towards me. It was the worst day of my life. I wanted to look after him and keep him home. It broke my heart and I’ve never cried so much. Sobbing in the shower and just feeling like a failure. Eventually I accepted that it was the best solution to a very difficult time for both of us. I was there with him every day while he begged me to take him home… it bothers me to even write this.
I knew that for his safety and for mine it was the best solution.
I was there during the day advocating for his care but at night I got a good sleep and realized that I could still be there for him but that I took care of myself too. That way we were both safe. As women we are caregivers and forget about ourselves. That’s not ok.
God bless you with love and strength Barbara ❤️🙏

Thank you Betty. I know it is the right thing to do, and lucky, if I get him in the Bungalows, I will only have to drive 10 minutes.

This week I was actually approved for 35 hrs a week homecare. I can't wait for it to start

Hi Barbara: It’s difficult but safer and healthier for you both. God bless you. Be strong and know that I pray for you. I visited my dear husband daily and that helped us both. Hugs ❤️👍🙏

Hi Betty, just noticing this letter now. D did not get accepted fir the Bungalows. I was so disappointed....but I have checked the next option and I have finally accepted that its going to be ok. The social worker sent me pictures of the place and it really nice but not homey like the Bungalows....this place is fir patients who are mobile, but all different levels of dementia. So there could be people who are angry there and most don't know where there rooms are so go to different rooms etc...but my hope is that he will get to talk to some of the patients and that the nurses are kind. He is #6 on the waiting until.