I feel bad. I brought my dad into our home. He was a farmer. He had cattle and cats he watched over. It was getting expensive to let stay at home. Letting him stay at home by himself, wasn't an option anymore. At our house, I feel guilty. He's just sitting around like a rock on a log. He loves walks, cat rides, shopping, church and meeting new people. I tried to get him to feed our cat. Started out good. Now not so much. Sometimes, he will work on a puzzle. What do others loved ones… read more

My husband has so many tools, clothes and things from his active life that no longer apply to his end-of-life journey. I included his hiking boots in a bag going out to the bin this morning when I saw them in the garage and my heart just broke. They were far too worn to donate and far too painful to keep around. Oh, all those wonderful hikes we took together, even to the top of the highest peak in AZ. I’m not sure how you all have done this, but hopefully I’ll have the strength to carry on.

My dad lives about 4 hours away. Recently, he was in the hospital and found out that the doctor is recommending more care. We are considering moving him to our house. I have heard that patients change when there's a change in the environment. This would be a huge move for my Dad. Sell all his vehicles, have an estate sale, sell his house, cattle, and everything in his property. Find homes for his cats that aren't friendly. We were going to sell his truck and pull from his IRA so he could… read more

I really would like feedback on the pros and cons of having your loved one living in your home VERSUS assisted living/memory care facility.

On one hand, I'm relieved...the day-to-day stresses of caring for a 200lb toddler and working a FT job are over. I tried my best and did my best (mostly) to keep him home...but it was becoming increasingly difficult. I toggle back and forth between, "I'm okay" and "I'm SO sad". I'm glad to be able to turn my full attention back to my job and my health. Taking care of so many things I had to put on hold for the past few years, it's overwhelming. I'm decluttering, throwing away, donating and… read more

I am trying to figure out how to help my mother-in-law who has been with us 2 months.

I need an official diagnosis but would like more details on caregiving and what level she's at, and whether certain meds are affecting her paranoia. Need advice on psychiatric meds, etc. So do I go to appointments using HER insurance? Or go to my own psychiatrist and ask questions about her? (I don't actually have one) How do you manage these things?

And I'm afraid to say to her "you have Alzheimers so I need… read more

Maybe this question was posted prior to my joining this site & if so, please forgive
My husband was diagnosed in 2012, & now needs me for everything. He sometimes gets angry if I leave the room. I don't feel like a person anymore. I don't get to be just me anymore. I don't get to do the things some of the things I used to enjoy. Sometimes I feel resentful, & angry at this disease. Sometimes I am angry at his children for not helping out even though I know in my heart they are busy with… read more

How do you cope with "Sun-downers". My husband wants to go "home" everynight. He even packs things he is taking with him. Every trick I know does nothing to help.