My husband talked about going home, to Jacksonville Florida. That was his parents’ last residence, but he never lived there. His dad was a Navy career man and he grew up across the United States and even lived in the Philippines for a few years. When he would say that, I would tell him it’s too far for me to drive. I told him that his parents weren’t there anymore, and they had died sometime back. He said he didn’t really know that. But he did accept it and stopped asking. Some people have said they will take their loved one on a drive around town, then come back to where they are living, and tell them we’re home now. Maybe that would work for your mother. They cannot enter our world, so we have to enter theirs

Andrea, it is possible that your mom is referring to her childhood home. As ALZ destroys the patient’s memory, the most recent periods are destroyed first, typically leaving only memories of their childhood.

You might try deflection in response to a request to go home - something like “I just called home and everyone is out right now. I’ll try again in a half hour.” Worth a try.

In my memory care experience, "going home" is most often not a physical place. Usually it means they want to go back to a time when they were in control of themselves. A time when things weren't so confusing and always changing. She may not have moved, but her perception of everything is different from moment to moment. I'm not sure this is something that can be "fixed." Distract. Take her outside. Give her some coffee and a photo album and sit with her and talk about those days she's longing for. Very temporary, but maybe it will keep it from escalating.

How is her memory, otherwise? Does she remember things from day to day or does she forget you were even there if you leave for 10 minutes.
I can tell my dad that we are going home after lunch or that we are going home tomorrow morning, but he will not remember. It does calm him down and this continues to work each time.