You have to let it go. You have enough to deal with. Make memories with your mom. It is their loss. This is one of those things you cannot control. It is only hurting you.

Maybe set up a FaceTime call from your end - even if they do t appreciate it your husband will.

I feel much like Anna056. Often we have to let go of what we want/wish/hope for in order to move forward while on this journey, particularly when adult children and other family members are involved.

Adult children don't always face this illness as we are forced to do as caregivers My husband is in late stages Alzheimer's and his four children stay away and rarely discuss it. They can't accept or don't want to accept or see what is happening to their father unfortunately it is getting to a point it is to late they have waisted the time and memories they could have made with him maybe they will realize this when he is gone it is their loss.I will stand with him and try to keep him safe happy and home till the end of I can. They told me they would put him in a home if I can't take care of him I am all he has. Their guilt or lack of will be what they live with I know I have and will do the right thing It does no good to get angry at them we have all we can do to take care of our loved ones

Perhaps do monthly FaceTime calls with your kids to check in and have each one speak very briefly with grandma......don't blame you for being angry but not sure from your post if grandma knows them or is aware they don't call her.