If my mom is awake, she's talking. usually asking the same 6-7 questions over an over. i just keep answering them. i would try to keep you voice to sound matter of fact and that it's the first time you're answering that question or responding to the complaint.

It takes a lot of patience wish I had concrete answers for you. My best advice is to simply say I will see what I can do

I just
go with the flow, I get into his world, reality, and ease a way out if it and change subject. When my husband gets frustrated as an example , his phone don't work, and wont let him call on it,😁 ( when he is talking to me on it). I tell him I'll come look at it and show him it does work, If hes having his days where our place is different, we walk through the home and I ask him what's different or changed to you. We do it then go on with something else. He has his days, 😇Yes it all about keeping the. feeling safe, comfortable and loved. Hard to do ,we are human. 🙏GREAT SITE FOR VENTING, AND SUPPORT. You will find your Norm.Have a good day. BLESSING Debbie

@ Suzanne Thanks for the reminder. When I’m really tired, I will hear that “for the 100th time” tone in my voice. I hate it and feel bad as soon as I hear it, but it’s already out and I can’t take it back. So change my tone up and try not to sound as frustrated as I am. Sometimes it’s easier said than done.

@A myALZteam Member thank you for all your support last Year, after Messaging you asking lots of questions, Your husband had passed , then October my husband passed , the Lord took him. yes I had to seek for assistance snd help( Medicaid , snd hospice was awesome , I couldn’t handle it all by myself , he was were I could not redirect him anymore, he wanted to leave and go home, his balance was not good, he fell a couple of times where I had to have fire department come help him out of bathtub where he feel in it🙄,He’s 300 pounds 6 foot tall, I’m 5ft 4 , 140 pounds, his hallucinating was daily, , he did have episode that put him in hospital , Dr says he was in last stages of Dementia and couldn’t return home, three weeks in hospital til we placed him in an awesome memory care near me , only 15 memory care patients and really good, hospice came only to make dure he was doing good, he was ambulatory, walked on a walker and I liked him in the wheelchair to push him because he’s so unbalanced as he walked by himself, But hallucinated all the time, he was in his world 🥰, fell a few times was there almost 3 weeks and passed away. the LORD took him October 22. 2022 so feeling what you must’ve went through I’m thankful he left the way he did and he end up connecting with family just loving us and really happy , hecasked me to marry him 💔🥰it was wonderful , but I’m thankful that he didn’t suffer any more than what he was doing ,the symptoms of stop eating was starting to happen. anyway blessings to you and keep on here. Keep support and blessings to you Debbe.

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