I will careful evaluate the whole situation, am I doing this for the well being of my husband, or am I doing this for me to bring me the balance that I think I need to keep me sane. I was in that "mental balance" with my wife, backed off and saw the whole picture and concluded, at least for the present time, would I like to be totally alone ? no, was my believe, so, I said, OK, you are doing a good job, just do it a little longer and make adjustments to make it easier for both.

Many of the difficulties we encounter while care giving have simple solutions, just back off, see the whole situation, pray, and the Higher Power, will provide you with the solution. Stay in today, tomorrows problems are not my problem right now, I can handle what is in front of me.Remember the round sign in your photo " WE CAN😇 DO THIS"

Good honest answer Robert.

Sharon, I have not had to face that decision yet, but I think I would tell her that she requires more professional medical care and attention than I can provide at home. I understand that this statement is a rational argument being presented to a person incapable of rational thought, but no statement will totally eliminate the sting of guilt.